Why do you think people "hide behind computer screens"??

Question

Why cant people be as friendly and open in "real life" as opposed to on here??

I mean I really like the people who are on here, but when you walk down the street they all look like they are much different.

how come, you think?

TALKING ABOUT THE FACT THAT MAYBE PEOPLE ARE NOT WHO THEY REALLY ARE ON HERE, OR IS IT THE OTHER WAY AROUND MAYBE?

MAYBE THE PEOPLE ON THE STREETS ARE PUTTING ON THE FRONT POSSIBLY?

Answer 1

cause theyre playing hide and seek

Answer 2

Having anonymity allows people to express however they wish without personal contact or consequences for that matter. Well, to a certain point anyway. There is a differnce in freedom of expression and out and out bashing and filth which is the reason for the guidelines here at YA.

The same precious freedom to express means we have to put up with the nasty ways people are capable of crossing the boundaries of decorum and good manners.

Outer appearance has never been a marker for who a person is inside. Prisons aren't just all about tatttoed gang members, they are also about the extremely charming, handsome men, and sweet, beautiful women who are also murderers, scammers, thieves and abusers.

The world is still the same as it has always been and being on a computer doesn't change the basic premise that you really cannot tell what a book is about by its cover. Frankly, the nastier expressing folks are probably being more honest and up front than the pleasant kiss butts trying to get a point for just writing some kind of entry at all.

Answer 3

Most people are friendly and kind, Some are not, if you look closely at the answers you will see that there are a few that you would not want to meet on the street. A lot of good people are simply afraid when they venture out into the real world with all it's wild possibilities. Be kind, hold open doors, and smile when your out and about and you too will make this old world a better place for us all..:)

Answer 4

I believe the people on the street ae putting on a front. It's easy to be so nice and frienly on here when nothing much is expected of you. It's just really free and easy. I was thinking about this yesterday becase I am sooo shy in person and boring and quiet. I was wondering why I just can't be the same way in real life as I am on here. My best guess I came up with is being afraid of wha people will think of me or react in real life. Plus on here you have so much time to think out your answers. Really good Q. I liked this question a lot Very interesting. :)star!

Answer 5

Read Maya's Angelou's 'We Wear the Mask.' That provides a fairly good answer.
Also, this technology allows strangers to ignore social conventions, such as introductions. It's a dangerous world out there. A lot of good people are in it, but how comfortable would you be if someone you didn't know just walked up to you and started asking questions, as we do on this forum, or started a conversation out of the blue?
I do it from time to time, in a long line in the grocery store, or situations where what's in common for people I don't know being in the same place lends itself to conversation. Generally though, people find strangers who strike up conversations a bit on the weird side. Personally, I think sometimes the one's I initiate in grocery lines, etc., are proof that I'm getting old. (sigh)
Finally, I'm glad there's a computer screen to hide behind when it comes to some of the posters on Y/A! I've read some really creeeepy and socially retarded responses on here. Usually at least one per question.

Answer 6

I'm not sure about anybody else but I'm the same person all the time. I think some people use the internet sometimes to get away from their life and who they are. Some people may feel gaurded in the "real world" but much freer here. They can sort of relax and to what they want.

Answer 7

It depends on what State you are in how friendly the people are.
Down South everyone is nice and friendly.
California not so friendly.
Did you know N. Carolina is the friendliest state in the US.
Georgia people are nice too.
Florida lovely people.

I think people need people, and it seems like the computer is an easy way to meet people.
We are more open on the computer too.

Answer 8

Has to do with the public and private realm. You are expected to conduct yourself in certain ways according to society but here you are anonymous so it's easier to say what you want and express things you normally would not be able to do in public.

Did you know there was no such thing as privacy till the 16-17 century? people would live in one room houses that only had 4 walls and a roof?

Answer 9

People CAN be as friendly and open in real life IF they want to be and IF the person on the receiving end of the conversation would be as receptive to what they are saying. It's easier to appear friendly online because you can choose to show only the good, whereas in person the "bad" is more obvious (bad breathe, unclean teeth, over or underweight for the body type, etc.) Think about it...if someone has all the negative going for them in person, will you give them the same opportunity to display their "good" features (ease of communication, intellect on world events, etc) as someone who is appealing to the eye? Most people wouldn't...

Answer 10

People are scared that others will think they're weird. That's the problem with conformity. I mean dude, if someone doesn't like you for being you or being a unique individual then screw em. You'll know who your real friends are if you be yourself.


haha lol the sense of humor and all the things I do ask any of my real friends. It's alllllllll me hun X] everyday since I was a baby.

Answer 11

No one can see each other online. So people have no preconcieved ideas about one another. Yes some people pretned to be other people, but I'm talking about the people like you and I who get on here. People, especially people who have social difficulties interacting with others, can relax and be themselves here without fear of rejection. Or if they are its not so bad because at least it isn't face to face. I think it's alot harder and takes alot more confidence to be yourself in front of others even if they might not like who you are. Which if they don't, it's their loss and there are plenty of people who will like you for you. You don't have to change for anyone.