for awhile now ive thought that my husband was cheating on me. One day i went into his email and i found a letter that he wrote to his new love interest. he stated that he couldnt wait to get a divorce so that he could be with her. When i confronted him about the letter he threw me and our 2 kids out and said that he wants a divorce. This all happened over the past week. Hes going to file for a divorce in a few days. I need advice on the steps i need to take from here on in. I told him that i dont want that girl around my kids. am i wrong? she knew that he was married and had 2 kids and she still pressed on to be with him. Now i have to get and job and find a place to live fast, im so stressed out. I need advice please!
2007-12-14 20:12:12 · 17 answers · asked by supermom814918 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u need an attorney who can freeze his as setts, get u the divorce, and give u sole custody. u should have thrown him out, and refused to leave. be careful he may have some more dirty tricks up his sleeve, that's why u need an attorney. unfortunately there are some pretty mean women out there just waiting for the chance to wreck someones home, and unfortunately not much can be done about it, especially if u live in a community property state.
2007-12-14 21:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to do is find a safe place for you and the kids to stay for a while til you can get back on your feet. The next day hire an attorney, and ask that he pay the fees, after all he did throw you and his children out. You did nothing wrong, and you are absolutely right about not wanting that woman around your children, you can also have that put in the divorce papers that he can not have any overnight guests while the children are with him, if he does and is caught it will be hard for him. You need to get ahold of yourself now... i know your stressed, I'm sending you a hug, been there and done that too. Sugar now is not the time for that, that will come later believe me. NOW think use your head and not your heart. He done this to you and your family, so deal with it. IF you have a good friend, family member, or someone you know you can really trust talk to them don't go thru this alone. Scream cry yell get it all out, but when it comes to him be calm, cool, and collected. Think for yourself and the children. If you make mistakes in your decisions it may be hurtful later. When your making these decisions dont think about him. He is no longer to be considered, he made his bed now let him lie in it. Its not about him now, its about making a new life for you and your children. Good luck and ill be praying for you.
2007-12-15 08:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you and your kids leave the house,you should of told him you were not going anywhere. You should of told him he is the one who had to leave if he wanted a divorce. How long have the two of you been married and are the two kids his and is the house in his name? I'm sorry but you husband sounds like a real monster. What kind of husband puts his own wife and kids out on the street knowing damn well you have no money or job and no where to live. I'm sorry i have no advice that would help you,i just want to say hang in there and try to be strong for your kids they need you the most right now. He will get his and so will that whore he is with.
2007-12-15 04:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good lawyer!!! You are finally learning the facts of life. Whatever you do don't ever get married again!!! Here are the facts of life just in case you don't know them all:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. You can ask me anything.
I don't lie.
2007-12-15 09:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Devious guy your husband thank God he's not a serial killer. Your nosy suspicion caught him with his pants down. Please remember he cannot kick you out of your home you have the kids. Go to your local police immediately have them meet you at your home so they can talk to the both of you, tell the officer that you have been threaten and that you do not feel safe with him there, and that you want him to leave. Then get a restraining order against him. Then get your head straight and talk to the right people. Good Luck
2007-12-15 04:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has had the affair so he will loose everything, when the other spouse hass an affair that ends a marriage they loose the lot, when it comes tot he kids this may not be an option you can arrange however there will need be a court order for custody and visitations withthe children, go see a lawyer, the lawyer will sort all of this out for you and rest assured you will end up with everything,
2007-12-15 04:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to file first!
You need to ask the judge to give you the house until the property issues are settled. The Judge 99% of the time will kick him out of the house and give it to you.
You also need to protect yourself financially. I have a good page on my website about that:
http://www.UtahParentsUnderSiege.com/
If you can't afford a lawyer I can help you get it filed.
Let me know, just email me.
2007-12-15 05:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by Simian Menace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do women start playing games with the kids from the very beginning. even you realize they would be better off having some other women as their mommy or there wouldnt be a kid game for your divorce.
2007-12-15 05:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have a pretty good idea what to do, and nooooooo you are not wrong , none of this is your fault, one day he will realise this and it migh be too late coz you will have picked up the pieces of your life and have moved on to a place where you dont have excess baggage to stress about.....
Good luck to you and have Faith in God, he will never le you down!
2007-12-15 04:21:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way he can kick you and the kids out of your own home is through fear. Does that mean hes abusing you and the kids? if that is the case., then why would you want to stay married to him? You and yout kids deserve better. If he is not an abuser and you are not afraid of him, then you and your kids move back into the home and tell him to leave.
2007-12-15 05:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋