My husband has been playing an online game with me for sometime now. He was flirting with this married woman (you'd think she would know better). I saw it with my own eyes but didn't see it as important and I thought I should stop him anyway, so I did and everything was fine except she use to send tell to him really late at night it was very annoying.... anyway I find out that he gave her his email at work or some other email for her to mail him and he says its nothing, its just about raiding. Do I really look that dumb? anyway I kind of knew he was talking to her another way but now am sure and it really ticked me off that he would deceive me for "nothing, just raid talk". I mean after confronting him he brought flowers to apologise but all they do is remind me of his deception and now he is still grouping with her online even after all I have been through and he calls me a ***** and a cow after I ask him about it again. I feel abused and disrespected.
2007-12-14 19:42:03 · 12 answers · asked by Sarah 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry to hear this, but all you can do is live with it or without it...and both choices won't be easy. I think you had every right to confront him-he's your husband and he's cheating...and now he's cheating and abusive toward you and can't even own up to his actions. Flowers are the perfect example of him admitting he's wrong. I wouldn't have accepted them, but if you want to save your marriage I guess there's things you'll have to do...but living with a cheating and abusive husband shouldn't be something anyone has to put up with.
Look into your options. Maybe counseling if you could get him to go, but whatever you decide, communication is the key. I'd bet he'd be scared if you went to live at a friend or relative for a little while, but then he may see just how serious his actions are and be willing to discuss it with you...but most men wouldn't admit they're wrong, that's where the flowers come in.
Goodluck to you, don't let him take you for granted, seek
professional advice on your own or together.
2007-12-14 20:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by sunoverla 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think your husband is unhappy with you in some of the areas in your life,...he experiencing longing for something more than you have to offer to him.that might hurt your feelings but that s what the truth is.Think of it for example,.....if i was in marriage with you,..and we have nice life together I absolutely have no reason to flirt with another girl,....but I would like to search for something more than YOU are,..then you aren't his perfect match,..in other hand, most of the man is addicted to what we called cheating,...and it comes in variety of ways in today's life and he might love you from the bottom of his heart but he is sick,...mentally because those kind of people will never reach their love goal with out professional help,...he probably had never experienced true comfort with 1 partner and I do feel sorry him and anyone that has problem like he does,..and he has VERY serious problem whether you see it or not,...no one should share single most important thing we have,and that's life with someone that calls you names and disrespect you of who you are and refuse to see value he saw in you when he met you.
2007-12-16 12:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by hari 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are abused and disrespected. You have to ask yourself if you can live with that. He is not telling her to stop so do not blame her. She only knows what he tells her. He has lied to you so image what he has lied to her about. If you do not want him emailing other women he should not be doing it, especially behind your back.
2007-12-15 03:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Thats ur husband..omg you need to put your foot in his azz and show him you dont tolerate disrespect! stand up for yourself and dont let him think you can be pushed over and manipulated so easily...he's trying to step over you, he already started with the verbal abuse dont back down
2007-12-15 04:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by mrs_rellz 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband needs counselling on how to respect his spouse.
You deserve better girl!
2007-12-15 04:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well....I totally understand your problem because i'm man & i know what i want..I want my women to be romantic and attractive..if you are both then he is sick if you miss one of that quality then improve ur self because men is like 7 year old kid...We want something attractive all the time....you might not like it but this fact & i'm telling you as an man.
2007-12-15 03:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kaaran 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound way to jealous for your own good. Has it occurred to you he is telling the truth. If you don't trust him then why are you married to him. He was wrong to call you a cow but the b**** may have been deserved.
Nyckee
2007-12-15 03:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by ~Nyckee~ 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Contact a doctor
2007-12-15 03:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
ask him to mend his ways or choose between you and the other lady
2007-12-15 03:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by ramarao p 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
stop playing games and yahoo answer and go have some wild sex with him;;;;;now go
2007-12-15 03:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by john 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋