How do you stop loving someone after 16 years and 5 kids?? I am so mad at my ex for so many things, I just can't seem to stop loving him. How has he stopped loving me??
2007-12-14 19:36:50 · 10 answers · asked by bettys5incali 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I highly doubt he ever did love you. But if he did then he probably still does but isn't willing to admit it.
2007-12-14 19:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by ~Nyckee~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't explain other people's emotions (as if it would help and you could change them); you can only explain your own to the best of your knowledge. You have plenty of reasons to keep loving your ex. With 5 kids that you share, that's a good thing. You'll always WANT to have him in your life if only for that reason.
But what is it about you that would accept less than love in a relationship? Clinging to a dream? Worshiping a god with feet of clay? Living in the past? There's a lot more you can be experiencing in a relationship than that. You can come to the point where you demand love and respect - but the only way you can get there is to open up your world to a greater extent and start dating.
Take care of yourself and protect yourself. See what other men have to offer and be careful. Given some time on the dating scene, you will find yourself getting more attention, more respect, more affection and men will be interested in you. One will be special. You'll let him into your life. You'll wonder why you were clinging to a bad relationship (your ex) and you'll wonder why it took so long to let go. Then you'll start to understand more about yourself and your marriage.
In the meantime, be civil and caring and let your ex go. Smile at any of his antics to engage in hurtful behavior towards you. Once you are living your own life again - free of marital conflict - you can afford to be amused by his interactions with you. Enjoy!
2007-12-14 19:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Relationships are complex, and impossible to tell what contributed to the end of yours. Maybe you know? No one who is really in love just stops, and I'd guess there is more to the story- takes two to grow it, usually both involved to some degree in breaking it down. Was he too selfish, or were you? Just asking...
2007-12-14 19:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....5kids?
Perhaps he got distracted, or tired and bored. Are you and the kids wearing him out through all of the 16years?
Ask all you want, but if he still loves you, he wouldn't say anything if he knows it will only hurt you.
2007-12-14 19:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by Hani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably loved you "in his way" but some men just don't get it.
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2007-12-14 21:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant just stop loving someone after that long
2007-12-15 00:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the while you were under mistaken impression. i pity you did not realize all along and went ahead to have 5 kids.
2007-12-14 19:47:37 · answer #7 · answered by ramarao p 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He never did.
2007-12-14 19:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree, he probably never did.
2007-12-14 19:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by parabol46 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
can't say
2007-12-14 19:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋