It's been 3 yrs and one wife later for him, but he still tries to contact me. I had to change my email which I've had since 1998, because he wouldn't stop emailing me and yes, I could have blocked him but he has those stupid Google searches programmed for my email addy so anytime I would join a public forum he would find them...After I changed my email he found me on myspace and sent me a really nasty email about how he hated me, but then the very next day he sent me one apologizing, all to which I didn't not respond (I did set my MYSPACE to private so he couldn't see what was going on with me.) It's been about a month or so since I heard from him, but then tonight out of no where he sends me this TEXT telling me he had moved and wished me an early happy bday. I just want him to leave me alone...I've begged and begged and I don't know what else to do. Any advice?
26 minutes ago - 1 week left to answer.
2007-12-14 18:16:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't want to change my number....
2007-12-14 18:22:04 · update #1
Some of these answers are ridiculous. Call blocking is a useless expense because you would have to block all the numbers that he can call from, including pay phones.
Putting traces on calls, is a billable service to you. It is also archaic as most people have caller ID on their lines, and in todays digital world, and Homeland Security all numbers are recorded. (And most appear on your statements.) If it is serious enough, police can obtain this information for free.
You have to read the emails to see if there is any kind of threat.
Changing your number is an option, but it does not make or break obtaining a restraining order. If he knows where you live, then he still has access to you, so changing your number is just cutting off one way to reach you. If he knows your email address, mailing address, place of work...how far are you willing to go to avoid someone.
The best thing you can do is talk to a police officer to get some advice, as they are all too experienced with this kind of thing. You do not have to file anything, and talking is free.
2007-12-14 19:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Keez 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have all the answers you need.
1) call the phone company to block his number.
2) change your number
The fact that you "begged and begged" means you've been giving him attention along the way. As long as you keep communicating, he'll keep trying to get back in there. You need to disappear and if that doesn't work, then a restraining order. This is simple.
2007-12-15 02:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by TheTotalStud_StudTotal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ever hear of calling the police? Change your phone number and have it UNlisted (it doesn't go into public records and can't be found online. Hire a lawyer, call the police have him arrested for harassment/stalking. If you don't do anything to aliveate the "problem" that means that YOU actually WANT the attention and just want something to btch about for the attention.
2007-12-15 02:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, you have to stay in touch if you have kids, court rules, not mine. If not? Restraining order as a last resort or if you think he is or could become violent. Get call blocker on your phone, yes you have to pay for it, but its peace of mind. He can't call if he can't get through. Second? Borrow someone who is close male friend, have the guy talk to him, set him straight. I don't mean with violence, rather, tell him its not manly to do what he is doing, and let it go. Move ON. If this doesn't work send a cease and desist letter to him. Get it noterized in case you need it in court. This is the precursor to restraining order. You may also have to get an unlisted number. Its worth it hun. You get it unlisted with call blocker (only his number not other people), and it will be really hard for him to contact you. If you must use a chat forum, use a face page. Its harder for people to find you. Good luck.
2007-12-15 02:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by cruisepuppy7452a 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is difficult for someone who has a seriouc emotional attachment to let go. He obviously doesn't want to "let go". Your choices are limited. You can make up your mind to simply ignore him. Easier said than done. You can ask him to stop bothering you. Apparently tried and doesn't work. Or, as has been suggested, you can get a restraining order. If you consider the order, begin making a record of all his contacts, how they are done, what they are, and make a record of your attempts to get him to stop. Then you have the information for the Court and it will help get the restraining order. I suggest you don't "threaten" him with the order, simply get it if that's the way you want to go. Good luck with this.
2007-12-15 03:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello Stalker.....you need to file reports on his ***. Call the police and file harassment charges and stalking. Then have to courts file a restraint.
THEN call your phone company and tell them that you're getting stalker calls. They'll set up traces on your home phone. They'll be able to get those records to the police as well.
2007-12-15 02:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you can have a number blocked though your phone company if you don't want to change your number. If you get any messages from him, don't open them or read them, just put them in a file in case it gets worse and you can file a restraining order on him.
2007-12-15 02:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by forestbythesea 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Call the police
2007-12-15 09:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the ppo and have the court tell him his next step is jail and save everything he has sent to you, email and other wise to take to court, and i see by the one guy that answered that the 12 year old is back online
2007-12-15 02:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by Dale T 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Call the police and check your divorce decree to see if it has something in it forbidding himto come near you or call.
2007-12-15 02:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋