Puppy love. How do I let it go?

Question

So, I'm 15 and theres this one guy who no matter what melts my heart. I've liked him for about 4 years. He hasn't been the only one I've liked he's just always been there. He liked me back at first but then some stuff happened it just never worked out for us to be together. But, theres too much history to be friends. He has a girlfriend now who I really don't like. I know she's going to break his heart just from the way she flaunts him in my face to make me feel worse that nothing will happen between us. But, he has so obviously moved on from me. He has my number yet doesn't call me. He seems to be fine about just leaving me in his past. I know, I know, I should just move on. It's not like this is actual love right? But, people don't understand the way he tugs at my heart everytime I hear about who his latest girlfriend is. Or how I just want sob when I actually think about the fact he'll be married one day to someone that isn't me ----------

So, what can I do to truly let him go like he's been able to let me go? Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

What you are feeling is normal. This will happen other times in your life also. You will get over it, it just takes time. Do not dwell on it. Get yourself busy. Play some sports, join a club at school, tutor someone, volunteer, make new friends, hang out with the friends you already have, the possibilities are numerous. The more you occupy your time the less time you will have to think about him. Before you know it he will not be the only thing on your mind. Do not let this hateful girl know that she is getting to you. Smile at her and walk away. If you take away the pleasure that she is getting from tormenting you she will get bored with it very quickly. Hang in there girl.

Answer 2

If I didn't know better I would think you re my daughter. Sweetie, just know that what you are feeling now is NORMAL. It's just one of the hard parts of growing up. You have formed a bond with a person and that's a good thing. Now you are going to have to learn to move on and that is an individual thing. We ALL have gone through that and there is not a magical answer. If there is one I would say it's time. You live in a time that things are quick but that's not reality. I can see from what you said is that you are discovering yourself and your feelings. Welcome into womanhood it's a life time of learning and not always easy.