Or do they just learn to say what the other wants to hear.....?
I know I have a very difficult time communicating with most women; I can talk with them easily, but when it comes to open, honest dealing, it just seems like we're on two different wavelengths.
What do you think?
2007-12-14 15:43:28 · 19 answers · asked by Jack B, goodbye, Yahoo! 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Dog Sneeze, you are so right; I agree completely.
2007-12-14 16:10:40 · update #1
In my more cynical moments, I have felt that good relationships consist of enduring and pleasant miscommunication.
2007-12-14 15:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Here's what gets me -- women ALL think they are unique. But, on average within a very short amount of time, literally an hour, if you're talking to a woman on a dating site she WILL diss you and go for someone else and think nothing of telling you a lie. I've ALWAYS heard excuses from every single woman I've met this year and most of last year where they pretend their kid has to go to the hospital or they have to cook dinner or have to go out to the store or "I'll talk to you later" and then she NEVER comes back. I've gotten so I can read pretty much all women like a book. There's nothing unique about them except their excuses NOT to communicate with men.
Basically, I think it will change though...when the first woman of the female of the species learns to write a man first on a dating site...but that may not happen for hundreds of thousands of years from now, so all men on all dating sites are screwed until then...
2015-04-07 11:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think some men and women can really communicate....emphasis on "some". I have experienced it, but more often than not it seems that men aren't really interested in communicating in the first place, even if they could contribute....they talk "about" just about any topic.....in fact, I find the male mind to be extraordinary when it comes to facts and concrete ideas. But when it comes to abstract ideas, especially involving "feelings".....forget it. Most men simply lose interest within sixty seconds. So I'm not sure if it's that they can't relate if they just find it too boring to hold their attention. As I said, I have met exceptions.....they are like a breath of fresh air.
2007-12-14 16:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by transplanted_fireweed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First let me preface this with the fact that I'm a gay male. However, I have always had good female friends. To me, being gay has HELPED me communicate with women. In my experience, men and women are on two different wave lengths, particularly when it comes to relationships. I marvel that as many heterosexual relationships work as they do. I think most men and women learn to not argue, to overlook certain things or accept certain things in one another. To be fair, however, there certainly are some heterosexual couples who have experienced that "Great Love" and have found a way to communicate. Those are the rare "soul mates" that so many of us seek, but never find.
2007-12-14 17:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by Michael B - Prop. 8 Repealed! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jack, good communication involves a lot of work. If both members or the relationship work hard, listen intently and communicate to the other as clearly as possible then YES, men and women CAN communicate totaly. the question IS, do most couples actually work on being able to communicate with their partners?
Brightest Blessings,
Raji the Green Witch
2007-12-14 16:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by Raji the Green Witch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are married for 13 years and we dated 3 years before that...
So a total of 16 years together...
In all that time, we have had a bad communication problem because we both have bad hearing in our ears...
I either have to repeat myself or stand on his good side...
He also talks fast and I miss a lot of what he says and I have to say things over again to see if that's what he said...
It gets annoying...
But we learned to live with it...
Sometimes it is very frustrating to hear something and find out that's not even close to what he said...
Our conversations really get stirred up...
2007-12-14 15:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by aspenkdp2003 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men never think in these lines. They think and feel so frustrated with the way things are concerning sexual issues, that no-woman bothers to even make an attempt to listen and understand and then they look for other ways to have sex with women.
2016-05-24 00:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't pretend that there aren't some differences but, I really hate being expected to act like "a woman" because I'm female; I don't like it when guys assume that since I'm a chick it means I must "play mind games" and that I must like sales and shopping and dressing up. There are definitely things I've been socialized to do because I'm a girl, and that's fine and good, I'm okay with being partially a product of my culture. But some guys expect that since I'm a girl I must think completely differently from them. That since I'm female I can't be "figured out" and that I do "illogical" things.
2007-12-14 16:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, yes I agree with you. Men and women are just so different from each other, it's a miracle when they can really communicate. Keep smiling, Jack *wink*.
2007-12-14 15:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
After your questions last night, I am not at all surprised you have a hard time opening up!
I honestly try to communicate-- but I am an odd sort that way, I know.
2007-12-14 15:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on the person. I have one guy friend that I think just says what he thinks I want to hear. I've got another that is completely open and honest. All depends on who it is...
2007-12-14 15:53:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋