Sometimes when I'm with my friends, I don't talk because I'm afraid of being judged or made fun of. Even if it is in a joking kind of way. I also feel judged when someone says something about what I'm wearing. I try to think about how their opinion doesn't matter, but sometimes it gets to me. How can I deal with this?
2007-12-14 15:12:25 · 8 answers · asked by ♠Jay♠ 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
begin by learning to accept and love yourself - the good, the bad, and the not-so great parts. don't compare yourself to others because we're each unique individuals, special in our own way; learn to forgive yourself for not being perfect which will help you forgive others as well.
the only person you want to listen to, is the person who helps pay your rent - everyone else can take a hike, bringing their opinions with them. got it?
2007-12-14 16:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they're your real friends, they wouldn't judge you no matter what. I used to be like you, but I finally came to a point where it's useless to have all these thoughts in our head. Sometimes it's just our negative feelings that gets in our way. Cast it aside and start being comfortable with who you are.
This world is full of judgmental and narrow-minded people, but there are still good people around. Surround yourself with friends who are supportive and will make you feel great just to be "you".
2007-12-14 15:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jazz on the Rocks 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being judged is threatening to us. Our self concept may be threatened and we might be hurt. We have uniqueness and dignity that no one can take away from us. Respect yourself and maintain your dignity and your self concept will prosper. You deserve that. Who we are, special and dignified, no one can change. We have a tendency to see ourselves by what we do. We need to understand that no matter what we do, who we are is unchangeable. In this light, those judgments will not matter as much.
2007-12-14 15:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by hmmmm 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, make sure you have some style. It's not too hard. Look at the model on the advertisement: buy those clothes and keep them in their arrangement. Like a suit. Voila..you have style, Versace said so, end of judgment.
Second, perhaps you tend to say stupid things, and you know it. Thinking before speaking is NOT stupid, and you tend to be seen as wise, as long as the few times you DO open your mouth to speak, you say something intrinsically insightful and perceptive. Talking is over-rated, and often girls like the quiet mysterious one. Girls do not like the stupid silly one.
Third, only one being can judge you: God. End of argument. Should you be made fun of for being quiet... then this is your script; "No comment. Just an observer."
2007-12-14 15:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by Xanadu 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Everyone judges everyone else, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. You are what you are, and you needn't worry about what other people think - if they don't like you, it's not really your problem.
If it really gets to you, just imagine them on the toilet with really bad constipation, it helps me a lot!
2007-12-15 06:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take up hobbies or just do things that make you happy without outside judgment. If you love cooking than cook, if you like hiking hike, if you don't have many activities that you do just for yourself then find some. Also talking to friends or relatives or even a professional can always bring up your spirits. Remember that if you are happy with the person you are, other peoples opinions won't make a difference and you will attract people of like mind.
2007-12-14 15:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Dirty Jack 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
try 2 annoy it and just have fun if your friends say it they dnt really mean it i its just a joke you should live by what u think is best not wat other people think
2007-12-17 01:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by nisha(da macc) 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop bein a wuss and judge them back?
2007-12-14 15:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by YOYO 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋