My So called friend?

Question

Me and this so called friends know each other for years, but for a while now, his always trying to put me down, always tries to correct me, and everything i say, he tries to prove me wrong even if its a simple, " it might rain today" comment, he will freaking go online and ****, and try to prove it wont.
Not to Mention, i get a feeling that he lacks self confidence, and tries to use me as a punching bag to gain whatever his trying to get back, he betrayed my trust a few times in the past, but came back, crawling, and ran with it in a way, that didn't make it look like it was his fault.

i am getting tired of this, he use to be a decent person, but he changed, what should i do ?

Answer 1

Hi, Vince!

I do understand what you mean. I had the same situation with my best female friend. The main idea is jelousy. Believe me or not, but this is th real fact! What I did in my situation is just say goodbye to my friend and thats it. Don`t hesitate about what to do, I think deep inside you know the answer for sure. If a person feels discomfort and lacks self-confidence, it is not your problem. I don`t know what caused this jelousy, maybe your intellegence, your age or your financial status (your parents). Therefore he feels like an outsider and in order to feel better he puts you down. It is evident, my friend! Don`t you see that? If I were, I would immediately quarrel with him, without any answers on his question let him go to find another dude, who will feel this on his own. I believe that you are a good guy, so don`t let anyone to put you down.
All the best,
Mika

Answer 2

Well if he's always downplaying you then why are you friends with him? Noone wants a friend who is going to highlight their mistakes. Thats not a real friend. A real friend would accept you for who you are and help you grow not try to rise above you. It is poosible that he is insecure or it could be that he's jealous of you for some reason. maybe its a personality trait that you have and he doesnt. it could be a wide variety of things. You said he betrayed your trust a few times. A few times is one too many. if he did it the 3 times then the third time should have been the final straw. And he seemed to have blamed it on you at that. This is no so called friend. Cut him off! he could blame you for bigger things one day and ruin you. If he was really sorry he wouldnt have kept hurting you.

However, you also said he was a decent person. Have you ever sat down and talked to him to see if something was up? Its possible that something affected him and his behavior is a psycological reaction. The best thing I can tell you is to talk to him. If he doesnt listen I'm sure you have other friends who may have your best interests at heart. Drift from him slowly. he may not be good enough for you

Answer 3

Tell him to stop! I mean hey, DO YOU DESERVE THIS CRAP?
NO. Even if you guys never talk anymore, You will show that you don't back down that easily. If he still hits, you, HIT HIM BACK.
I MEAN HIT. Like knock the crap out of. If he tries to do it again in school with a gang just tell the #$#$%%^ Teachers! But you should run first :p Yeah, you'll be called a snitch and stuff but hey,
Ignore it. I did. Although im in my senior year :\ Oh I would reccomend that you beat the s%^# outta the next person who tries to beat you up.

Answer 4

This sounds kinda nerdy, but when he does something that ticks you off be like "dude chill out whats up with you?" or you could just ask him to stop. Either one works.
If he keeps doing this that it annoys you this much he isn't a good friend so you should stop being his friend.
I know that is sometimes hard, especially if you have been close friends a while, so come out with the truth and tell him he is getting on your nerves.

Answer 5

Tell him he has changed. He might think he is not smart enough. When he proves you wrong say "Is it really that important to annoy me like that? Must you put our friendship on the line so you can tell me I predicted the weather wrong?"

If you ignore it, he'll think its ok and continue to do it. You need to tell him to stop. I know my cousin has turned like that. He is constantly trying to act in control, and prove everybody wrong. It might be a self esteem thing.
Maybe it makes him feel good inside he is putting other people down. It makes him feel better about himself.

Answer 6

i know exactly what your going through ive been through it myself, i think that not hanging out as much anymore would be a good idea, and hang out with your other friends that arent always trying to put you down. you need friends that will support you and that dont betray you. trust is something you need in all relationships and that includes friendships too

or you could always take the aggressive approach and tell him off and to stop being a douche

Answer 7

Sounds to me, like he's trying to impress you. Me thinks he might have a liking for you.

Guys, (yeah, I am one) are funny creatures. We grow up so much more slowly than ladies do.

Now and then, we try to let our lady friends know that we are 'into it'. But it all comes down to being way behind the times. Go figure!!!

Maybe your perception of him has changed while he has not changed so much. Likely, 'he' is still a decent person.

The Ol' Sasquatch Ü

Answer 8

Well, like you said, he used to be a decent person, but he changed. It sounds like this friendship has run its course, and I think you should stop being friends with him. You don't have to be his punching bag.

Answer 9

my best friend is the same way!! what i do is ignore him (not completely, just be like hey and thats all) for a few days and he usually just kinda takes everything out on someone else so when he comes back to me to talk he's less mean.

Answer 10

I had a guyfriend, Drew, who I was really close to. But I was tired of him pushing me around because I am no ones *****. So I just started hanging out with other people, and finally he apologized and he has shapened up. Just show him that you won't put up with it anymore.