What would you say if...?

Question

Ok, so I was talking to my husband, and he was talking about this girl he works with, and what she looks like. I was getting a little jealous so I asked what her body type was. I said "Does she look like me?" I was talking about body type. I am 5'2", and 118 lbs, which is a little big because I had a baby 8 months ago. He said " NO, she doesn't look like you. She is thin, and she doesn't have a little pudge", and he made a gesture to my belly.

Ok, so I know I still have a little of my baby fat, but I was sooo Insulted!!! How would you have felt? And for guys, do you think it was ok for him to say that?

Answer 1

Whether he thinks she's better looking or not, I don't think he should be comparing you two. Obviously you don't need to worry because he loves you, considering her married you, but that was very rude of him to say!

Answer 2

ok first of all 118 and 5'2 is awesome, and just having a kid makes it even better. Most pple keep a lot more weight than that after a pregnancy. I don't think u should get jealous either, just think everyone checks everyone out, its natural, u've got a ring on ur finger. Sounds like he was trying to get a reaction from you, and it wrked. Just remind him how hot u are, however u want to go abt. it. Don't ask questions abt. her , u'll just drive ur own imagination crzy. This girl I know had a baby 3 yrs ago and she still has baby phat on her belly, and she's like 115pds too and wrks out. So like I said just remind him of why he married u and the idiotic comments may stop for awhile that is until he needs another reaction.

Answer 3

First I would be upset with him talking about how attractive this woman is at work. I wouldn't put up with it myself. I wouldn't be asking him question either about what body type she had. He is mentally abusing you and putting you down. You are not fat at 5'2" and 118 lbs. You carried his child for 9 months and brought life in the world for him and he tells you that the other girl doesn't have a pudge. I would tell him if he wants her don't let the door hit you in the azz. He is disrespecting you. Do not be a doormat put your foot down.

Answer 4

Hell no! He has no reason to talk about any baby fat on you. As long as you are taking care of yourself, and trying to get into shape, he should shut the hell up! Besides, 5'2" and 118 is NOT FAT by any means. Sound good actually :)

Unless you married Mr. Body perfect, I would tell him to mind his own physique.

I do have one comment about you... How often do you ask these types of questions? You know, if you are getting jealous, and start to over react, he will clam up, and you won't know what he is doing. Once that starts in a relationship, you are headed down a slippery slope.

Be careful

Answer 5

OK, I don't consider 118 lbs and 5'2" BIG, at all....but considering you just had a baby (I am assuming HIS baby) he should definitely not be talking about your size at all much less some other woman at work. I would be SO insulted, feeling that he was no longer attracted to me after having our baby and that he was attracted to this woman at work. He is definitely a JERK and you need to let him know how you feel about his comment and gesture.

Answer 6

Ok for him to say that? I suppose.

Smart? No. Not so much.

I don't know why he is discussing how some other girl looks unless the point was to make you jealous, or some weird, stupid attempt to motivate you to take off the last few pounds you gained in pregnancy.

5'2" and 118 is not bad at all. My wife is 5'1". She actually never lost any of the weight that she gained from either pregnancy. She went from this petite person (about your weight now,) to a cow (over 200 pounds.)
By the by, I thought about sueing her for false advertising. Bait and switch. lol.

Answer 7

oh that sucks. I would be insulted too... but I have the sense not to ever ask my husband to compare body types of other women and myself. They often are not smart enough to say "you are way better/cuter/skinnier/hotter/etc". They instead say stupid stuff like your husband did.

And 118 lbs doesn't sound "a little big" to me... you just had a baby for crying out loud. Go shopping and make your husband buy you something nice.

Answer 8

He has an unmet need and this can lead him to trouble; before you get mad at him next time and there will be a next time ask him how does it help you when he is telling you the details about this other girl?. Try going to marriage counseling becasue your husband is losing respect for you and this is not good for a marriage---how long have you two been married?
And no he should not have said this unless he was trying to hurt you or he was being hateful. What did he expect when you gave birth to a baby he and you had?

Answer 9

Don't get insulted; get even. Next time you're having a conversation non-challantly mention how you saw some guy at the mall, grocery store, whatever, and he must have been a movie star or profesional wrestler, or athlete or something, becuase, he was so buffed and abnormally good looking. Say somthing like, "he had muscles where i've never seen guys have musvles before." Don't give him the chance to ask "did he look like me?"

Answer 10

I would feel hurt. Any girl would feel hurt about this. Talking about your body, describing it "pudge" & he's obviously saying your not thin.....& that hurts! Weight is a big issue on every woman. You have the right to be upset. And NO he did not have the right to say this. He probably didn't realize this would hurt you.

Answer 11

I can definitely see how you would be insulted. It's a woman's nature, aside from the fact he would of been even more uneasy if you had said that about him. You have to talk about this with him. Seperate the jealousy from your true feelings of being degraded by your husband. If anything he should be supporting you.