Does it get easier ?

Question

so i just came out to two of the most important people in my life. It wasnt easy , and i knew it wouldnt be but i was so happy thinking about how a big weight will be lifted from my chest because for the longest time it was like am i gay or bi , but i went on a trip recently and i had a lot of time to think , and the more time i had to think the more i knew i was gay.and i was so happy because it was like now i know im not confused ,and it was so hard to get out , and they were happy and excited for me , and i was happy to get it out but about an hour after i told them , i was at my apartment and i felt bad and upset , even though i was so happy to get this out . I mean now that im out i dont know what to do.what next , im not ready to tell my family , as fine as they will be with it , i just dont have it in me to do it.Anything thing else ,i would not have such a hard time say it to them , so why this?Why such a great thing bring me so down.i mean im not confused, does it get easier?

Answer 1

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Congratulations on your coming out. The euphoria will subside in a day or two.

Suggest you get involved with your local LGBT community organizations to help make your community a better place to call home.

Answer 2

Coming out is very difficult. I honestly wish I could help you but unfortunately, it's different for everyone. You sound older than I am and I'm glad you finally found yourself and I'm sure you'll have an easier time coming out than I am.

People tend to take it easier when it comes from adults, because apparently teenagers like myself don't know what we want lol.

Anyway, yes it will get easier but only if you learn to truly accept yourself for who you are and not depend on others to accept you because, sadly, for every person that accepts you there will be ten that don't.

Be happy with yourself, and do what makes you happy. Don't worry too much about others, there are only two people that won't ever let you down...you....and God (if you believe in him).

Answer 3

It will definatly get easier after awhile, either you feel like crap because your scared they don't think of you the same or that you are so happy (excited) that you don't want to do anything.

After telling a few people you build up (mental strength) within youallowing it not to be so hard coming out.

For me off the top of my head I told about 12 friends in the spread of a few months...trust me it feels good after. I was not scared to tell my family after that so I did tell them and it went even better.

Also when it comes to telling your family your mind always thinks of negative things usually....try to think positive.

Answer 4

Yes, it gets easier. Maybe it's closet withdrawal, maybe it's the thought that once you're out that it's, you can't get back "in" so to speak. I think you should find other gay people who can you can talk (like a mentor). Trust your friends reaction. If they have no problem with it, talk to them about what you're going through.

Answer 5

It's not that you came out that makes you sad; it's just that every one gets sad after being euphoric. Then happy again and....Like the sadness after sex.

Answer 6

it can be more easier for some people, but i think it might be more easier for you if you let more people know like your family, but take your time

Answer 7

the only thing I could say if you feel good about coming out good for it they may surprise you-
good luck and let us know how things work out

Answer 8

yeah it gets easier . find your community , so you can laugh with them about the absurd side of it all .