There is no affair we are just real good friends for 8 years.
2007-12-14 14:21:25 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What would he be like to live with? You appear to be lacking in the attention you need from hubby. Here is a guy that makes it all better. Friends yes,,,,,,,,but thoughts are sneaking in. Confusing, I know. But, be careful, you could be jumping out of the frying pan right into the fire.
2007-12-14 14:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself how much you love your husband? There will always be someone or something better (or it seems) than what you already have. If your husband is a good man (generally) and treats you well, than I would leave things as it is. Remain friends with the co-worker and also faithful to your husband. You certainly do not want to risk losing everything just to find out what it's like to be with your friend. Often times, you'll end up losing both. If things aren't going well with your husband, try to communicate with him and work towards making it better at home.
2007-12-14 22:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends. You married your husband and you know he doesn't treat you that good but you still continued to stay with him. Now here comes another man in the picture who is new and you say he treats you better then your husband. Well he treats you good now but say you were to leave your husband and move in with him then things can change as well. You married your husband and if he is not being emotionally,physically or sexually abusive then your marriage can be saved. If he is doing one or more of those things then you need to pack your bags and leave before you make the decision on running into another mans arms. The grass always seems greener on the other side until you get to know the other person better.
2007-12-14 22:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man at work treats you better because you don't live with one another.
When I was a married women there was men coming out of the woodwork so sweet so nice ready to help me with anything.
I thought wow what a nice man.
My husband used to tell me "those men are pigs all they want is sex"
Of course I thought he was nuts!
Well guess what I been divorced 8 years and I have everything to offer someone and he was right over the last 8 years every man that has come into my life wants to sleep with me.
I have yet to meet a really nice man!
They are all nice when your married more so at work.
Please stay with your husband he loves you no man will love you the way he does.
Good luck
2007-12-14 22:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing. becareful since warm feelings tend to lead one to a more emotional area---love and sexual since you feel that the person really knows you; what stops you from developing the same relationship with your husband? Just asking; sometimes the grass seems greener on the other side but what happens if things do not work out? This one guy took his neighbors wife and the kid. They left to a different state---Florida from Texas and they had a good relationship going on; they were doing very well together however the guy soon fell in "love" with this other lady, he left the first lady--the one witht the child in the other state---Florida and he came back to his homestate with the second lady and they now have a three year-old boy. What happen to the first I do not know.
Am I saying this will happen to you? No but there have been incidents where this does happen "he knows so well" sure you have talking to him for 8 years and maybe mentioning things you do not with your husband.
2007-12-14 22:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lifeline 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a common theme that I have noticed over the years.
Frankly, it is easier for someone at work to treat you better than your own husband, because he (the guy at work) only has you to deal with, and chances are, since you are at work, you are presenting yourself in a professional manor anyway.
Your husband on the other hand, gets that part of you, as well as all of the other parts of your personality, that you don't dare show the guy at work. I am guessing here, but I bet you have some sides of your persona that are not something that you would brag about... :)
Top that off with the fact that in a marriage, there are many things that distract a couple from focusing on each other. Bills, family, kids, jobs, etc. All of those things can lead a couple to have to deal with the reality of life... something that the guy at work does not have to do either.
Don't get me wrong, your husband should treat you well, and with respect. Same as you should treat him. After all, you are in love with each other aren't you?
I suggest that you focus on how to get back in touch with your husband, and start to distance yourself from that guy at work... remember, the grass is OFTEN not greener on the other side of the fence.
good luck!
2007-12-14 22:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by . 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since your having problems at home and this man at work is always treating you better naturally your mind wonders over to him. However keep everything in perspective. You only know him from work , you may feel different if you were with him like you are with your husband day in day out.
Nobody's perfect why not speak to your husband and let him know you two are missing some spice in your life and also how he's treating you. before you look outside grass isn't always greeener
2007-12-14 22:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, for sure, I wouldn't have an affair with him. And for sure, I'd be seeking some couples' counseling with my husband, to find ways to make my marriage better.
2007-12-14 22:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip quick before you do something that you could regret for the rest of your life. You must honestly assess your situation and come to some conclusions about what you want before you act in a hasty manner.
2007-12-14 23:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man at work does not live with you, is not married to you, and knows only what you tell him. He has nothing really invested in you. This makes it easier for him to be nice and not get all tangled up in the "day to day" living thing.
What I mean is "REALITY CHECK".....if things at home are bad, do something to fix it. The man at work and his attnetions have nothing to do with the problems in yoru home. Don't confuse one as a solution for the other.
2007-12-14 22:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋