2007-12-14 14:20:27 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There have been numerous studies that support moving into neither house. Experts say you should start your marriage out in a home that neither of you have lived in before. That way there are no territory issues, no underlying feeling of "they're changing EVERYTHING!!", no control issues over space that was originally just yours, etc. It also solves the problem of living in a house that your intended's spouse or partner lived in....there can be some baggage and feelings of not "belonging" in that case. I moved into my hubby's house when we got married and I wish we had found a new place. It has never really felt like my home.
2007-12-14 23:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by aly_des 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are. I've never married and have no children. I have a wonderful, fulfilling career, I live in a beautiful area with lots of outdoor activities year round, and I have great friends I love to spend time with. I enjoy my own company and not having to be responsible for anyone but myself. Plus, all my money goes to whatever I want to buy. I don't have to consult anyone else or worry about paying for school, braces, etc. It's a personal choice, and many people choose differently and are happy. You just have to figure out what's best for you.
2016-05-24 00:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which ever house is the house that the two of you want to spend the rest of your life in. Does it really matter who's house it is?
Which has the better neighborhood? The most room? The nicest yard? The best neighbors? Which is most affordable with your budgets? Which has the better school districts?
Sell one and invest the money in upgrades to the house you want to live in. Then, bank the rest of it.
2007-12-14 14:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by sarlha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the circumstances....like, for instance, which is less money, is this place closer to work, do you like or hate the other place......it isn't about if it is the guy or girls' place --- take everything into consideration. If you are preparing for marriage, saving money would be a good thing, right? Think smart -- not necessarily with your heart when it comes to this.
2007-12-14 14:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this would depend. Is he or she renting or buying? Are both renting or buying? Which place would be closer to work, etc. Which one is the least expensive? Which would be the better choice. Which payment is lower? You need to choose the best place that would suit both of your needs. Its not an issue whether it is hers or his, what works best for the both of you. When you get married everything becomes co-mingled. What difference does it really make. It is about making the best choice based on the facts.
I hope this makes sense.
2007-12-14 14:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Catgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know several folks who moved into one or the toher and then at some point the one whos house it is not wants to buy a house they both choose-Whatever works for you two and makes sense as far as commute etc.
Good luck and enjoy the adventure!
Bc
2007-12-14 14:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by Bc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of both houses and start out new in one that way both of you don't have more control over the other.
Wait until you tie the not and in the mean time spend the night back and forth.
Good luck!
2007-12-14 14:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds reasonable listern if you to are getting married why dont the both of you get a knew place to live to call home this way know one will have to move in each others home.
best of luck
2007-12-14 17:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. You decide that when you get married. It would depend whose house was closer to the couples employment and whose house more convenient in size etc.
2007-12-14 14:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by melodi1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whichever house that is more centrally located to things, has the most space and is either paid off totally or has the smallest mortgage.
2007-12-14 14:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by gospel_singing_pooh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋