My husband and I use to have eachoters myspace passwords along time ago. Then all he sudden he changed his. There is this girl who constantly rights him after every comment I make I swear. I just don't get it. Maybe Im being paranoid. He won't delete her though even though I have expressed how much she bothers me. Confused...
2007-12-14 14:10:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats right I don't control him. If he is cheating though I don't want to expose myself to std's. Cause I respect myself thankyou very much!
2007-12-14 14:15:31 · update #1
It doesnt bother me if he has been friends with them before. Exspecially if I have met them. But this is someone he doesnt know and to put her before me pisses me off.
2007-12-14 14:22:53 · update #2
That's a sign, but it doesn't mean he's cheating. Yet, if he's taking a lot of trips to the store without you, working later hours, seem distant from you, aloof, secretive with other things such as credit card bills, bank statements, email accounts, etc, these all can be a sign. Oh if he gets all bent out of shape when you ask him if he's cheating displays that he's guilty, and they go into defense mode. I know because I'm going through it right now.
2007-12-15 01:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking Boo Radley is right.
If he cared that it bothered you, he would respect your feelings and end "it", whatever "it" is, "innocent friendship" or not. You are feeling uncomfortable with this arrangement for some reason. Go with you instincts on this. One or both of them may be interested in the other; and if that's the case, then he may be interested in doing something else in addition to that "acquaintanceship" that you don't know about and will not know about for the longest time.
Why is he not deleting her when it is causing a problem in the marriage for you and can lead to something else (a bigger problem down the road or maybe it is a sign of what he's thinking).
There are also special devices (software) you can get to for the pc to find out more details about what's really going on, just do a google search for these. Just don't act suspicious and don't let him know what you're doing so he will let his guard down and then you can start digging up the dirt. You can also get special video cameras and tape recording devices installed in the house; just don't ever let him know. And you can set him up with one of your friends or relatives or go to a college, library, or friends or relative's pc and you can type in the messages to him to see if he will take the bait. But even then, he may say that he knew what you were doing the whole time and just played along (just like my husband claimed with me, which I don't think so because of all the other evidence I've seen and know of and etc.).
Edit: There are also test kits that you can get for those times you are finding secretions in his underwear and on his clothes.
2007-12-14 14:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is doing something wrong. If he respected you as his wife he wouldnt be chatting to other woman online and putting himself out there to possibly cheat. I think the whole thing is wrong and I hope you get to the bottom of it.
2007-12-14 14:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your gut tells you he's cheating, you're probably right.
Try asking him about it, but he'll deny anything of course. Tell him he wouldn't have changed his password if he had nothing to hide. To me, it seems fishy. he might have something else going on. it is very likely.
Sorry hun :(
2007-12-14 14:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what she is messaging him. If it is any kind of sexual words then yes I would be mad. If he was scared or hiding something he would hurry up and delete her messages if he was doing something wrong.
2007-12-14 14:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make your spouse do something they don't want to.
i learn this the hard way.
if you have to have trust or no marriage with work. sometimes trust breaks, but you have to work your way through that.
2007-12-14 14:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Sammie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do either of you have a my space??
He's cheating or laying the ground work.
2007-12-14 14:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by lornehart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he comes home one day and theres a condom on his penis.
2007-12-14 14:17:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not control him!
Stop acting like his mommy and be his wife.
Good luck.
2007-12-14 14:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If his penis tastes like another girl, he's cheating.
2007-12-14 14:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋