My fiance has irresponsible spending habits, I am not trying to tell him what to do, but it looks like I'm saving all the money here and it doesn't seem right to me. I had to remind him that my savings is my "emergency" stash not his, if he gets into trouble and has no money than thats his fault for not saving anything. Is his compulsive spending habits and bad credit a reason to break up? I really dont want to but I'm scared that one day we could be evicted or have a foreclosed house b/c he can't stop spending on junk.
2007-12-14 13:45:49 · 7 answers · asked by Kara A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Break up you must if this is a big problem for you. He will not change overnight, this will be a constant "battle" if you will for many years to come.
It can also cause problems in the long run, like when you want to buy a house or new car, so think it through. If you can tolerate his behavior, but just don't appreciate it and realize that the big things in life will be up to you, then stay. But if it really ticks you off and you dislike him for it, leave and save what time you can. Because you can always get more money, but time keeps ticking away.
Yoda out
2007-12-14 13:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money issues will cause the worst of marriage issues. Think about the future and kids. And all of the things maxed out credit cards and bad credit will do to your family. No money for vacations, trouble paying for college, not able to get good rates on houses or cars, etc. I would have a hard time walking down the aisle with someone who had money issues and could affect my happily ever after.
2007-12-14 13:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by breenahgail 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not yet married so he has no right to dip into your personal savings. If a man has irresponsible spending habits, he better learn to change it because once you get married, you can kiss your personal savings goodbye. I'd think twice about marrying someone like that.
2007-12-14 14:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by Equinox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup, give him an ultimatum: financial counseling or the marriage is off.
If he loves you, he'll happily go.
Financial problems are a huge cause of divorce, not to mention trouble in the marriage. If the two of you can't get on the same page financially you'll always be acting in the role of the responsible adult while he blows everything the two of you make. It's not fair to you.
2007-12-14 13:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by kyeri y 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he will not work on them then it would be enough for me. You will always be fretting over the money while he spends it. It is not worth the stress that you will be living in. This will lead to other problems.
2007-12-14 13:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a good enough reason to me. If he can't change and understand the importaance of saving money, then find some one who can
2007-12-14 14:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Ivy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only the man is supposed to break off an engagement.
2007-12-14 13:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by Little Angel 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋