I hope I am not sounding greedy but gas is expensive nowadays and it takes money to get around town with you know? Plus, I like to get soft drinks sometime too :) I mean I know if a man lost his job then ofcourse there shouldn't be an allowance and all but I am talking in general. I want to know what others think though. Thanks :)
2007-12-14 13:42:41 · 19 answers · asked by Little Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been married 26 years and wouldn't ever give my wife an allowance! She is entitled to all of our funds if she needs it. If she spends nothing that is fine to. We are a couple not a bread winner and a dependent.
2007-12-14 14:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by The Voice of Reason 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Rule of thumb - a man is supposed to give his entire salary to his wife and his wife should learn how to budget it properly. But that's not the case nowadays. A wife's allowance (if she's not working) should be net of expenses (meaning after everything in the house is bought and paid for, bills, grocery, lights, etc) -while the man can get his weekly expenses out of the budget, what's left minus savings should go to the community fund - and no one person has control over it because both spouses should have control over it and expenses should be recorded. I think you're intelligent enough to know what not to purchase and what's splurging on useless stuff. I feel that if a woman really requires an allowance for her personal stuff, $200-250 a month is enough IF everything in the house is already paid for, bought and covered. If not, it should be higher since she will be expected to buy grocery or anything at the last minute.
2007-12-14 13:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
An allowance makes it sound like parent/child. However, budget sounds like the word you may be looking for. As far as that goes I think it should be based on what's affordable and what's practical.
There is no need to spend just to spend. However, having what you need and a little extra here and there sounds like a good plan. I think the specific amount will be different for each family.
2007-12-14 14:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by amy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Need more details. Are you driving to work or just out? Do you work or not? You should have gas in the car regardless. My husband and I both get an allowance each month. This money is to do with as we please and we don't need any ones approval. We have a weekly gas budget that we both get each week for gas in the trucks. I take a certain amount of money to work with me each day for coffee or pop. He does not give it to me, the money is ours.
2007-12-14 13:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Allowance? Seriously? Is this because some wives (or just you?) can't control their spending without it being meted out by their spouses?
My fiance and I both work, and while he makes about twice as much as I do, I feel like I deserve to have some of the money I earn to spend as does he. When we combine our households, we will each pay toward our monthly living expenses and savings accounts based on our individual incomes, and then what's left over is our own. That means he will have more than me based on sheer numbers, but that's what HE earned, not me. I will have my own.
If you contribute to the house, it should not be an "allowance" that your husband deigns to give you or not.
2007-12-14 13:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My husband and I both work full time jobs. I take care of all the bills, gas in my car, grocery shopping, I do all the house work and make dinner. He gets about $100 a week for gas in his car and breakfast and lunch.
2007-12-14 14:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Daise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Allowance? Are you treated like you're 10?
Or is the word "budget" a better description? I understand a budget if money is an issue, but an allowance sounds odd. ;)
I don't have a certain amount. My husband and I spend what we want to spend. If it's over $300, we consult each other.
2007-12-14 13:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
As long as you are not overspending, there is no reson you should not have full access to the money. Is he hiding stuff? Not wanting you to know where he is spending money? This makes no sense-- Demand some respect, stop doing everything at home, get yourself a job, and have your own money.
2007-12-14 14:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My kids get allowances...not me. My husband is the only one working right now but he'd never put me on an allowance. To do that would imply that he has authority over me and I have to tell you I would never stand for that. But yeah I think you should have at least 50 bucks a week to spend (as long as you can afford it)
2007-12-14 13:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You are not a child, you should not get an allowance. You are an equal partner in marriage and as such you should sit down and work out a budget with your husband.
2007-12-14 13:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by paganmom 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋