when we got married she said she wanted to have them
2007-12-14 13:20:45 · 23 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh, yeah, i think that would be so smart
2007-12-14 13:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why so you can have kids with others ? If your wife changed her mind about this which is a HUGE topic thats not fair. I have 6 kids so I know what joy kids are and wouldnt marry someone who didnt like kids or want them.
I dont like to encourage divorce but divorce , dont cheat and find someone who thinks like you on this topic before you marry her.... get her preg before the wedding lol.
2007-12-14 21:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Think about it like this:
If you were faithful and not even considering cheating at all, and she wanted to cheat with men who had had vasectomies, would she be justified to cheat?
If she changed her mind before, maybe she will change her mind again about having children later when she realizes her biological clock is ticking (and some women are having them way up in their years now)or maybe you could talk with her about having an adoption or a surrogate mother deal with a suitable candidate. Try to make a compromise where both of you meet in the middle and can make an agreement if possible.
2007-12-14 21:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating on her won't give you kids, well not in the legitimate sense of marriage-anyways. Could you tell your wife how important having children is to you? The lack of desire to have children often stems from selfish motives. Some people do not want children because they want to focus on themselves, their careers, and their money. They do not want to have to be "tied down," or have to give up their expensive cars, homes, or vacations.
Without knowing the reasons for not wanting to have children, it is difficult to determine whether or not the feelings are "wrong." Are there health issues? Are there unresolved issues from childhood? These are things that should be discussed with your spouse, and if need be, marriage counseling should be sought.
2007-12-14 21:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by kam727 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.. your justified in divorcing her though.. is that better.. and since she lied about it.. maybe you should feel better about it.. but ask your self this.. what if she could not have children..would you leave or have a affair.. and then ask her if she may change her mind later on down the road.. if she wont then decided wether to leave or not.if you have a affair with some one. you will be paying for child support..only seeing the child you want .. when the woman say you can..since unwed father have not right.. if you dont believe me ask a lawyer my bf is going throught that.and paying for your own wife.. it is better to get out.. get someone else
2007-12-14 21:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by vis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
r u joking NO! if you really love her you would not have even asked maybe you need to talk to your wife about kids and really how you feel about having them and how you feel about her not wanting kids maybe she needs time that can be a scary thought for some women don't cheat on her if you cant come to some agreement then maybe you need to separate but don't cheat
2007-12-14 21:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no excuse for cheating. If you desperately want kids, you should get a divorce, not cheat on her and have children who will hardly ever see their father who is married to someone else beside their mother.
2007-12-14 21:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by jellybeanchick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really want a family, then you need to get a divorce and find a woman who is more compatible with your life's ambitions. If you love your wife more than wanting kids, then stick with her. You'll find other activities to fulfill your life. But I'm wondering exactly how much love is flowing here.
2007-12-14 21:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. If you want kids and she doesn't, divorce her, THEN find someone else. You cheating will not solve anything. And no decent woman will be beating down your door begging to have your babies when you've cheated on your first wife.
2007-12-14 21:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not! Do you want kids? If you want kids then talk to her about it, tell her that you want kids and why. Ask her why she doesn't and what changed. She may be opened to it. Nothing excuses cheating. If you are not happy with her and want kids and she is not prepared to give them to you then leave her.
2007-12-15 01:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by Z ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm no if she no longer wants kids and you do why stay married get a divorce don't cheat thats just lame would you want her to be cheating on you?
2007-12-14 21:24:31 · answer #11 · answered by Ash 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋