I have a flurry of emotions, and an even greater range of worries. And since my wife never comes home, (which was the first issue) i need to lay this out to the WWW.
1) She wants to leave me so she can see the world, where only 20'ish, so i feal left to the way side because i put so much of my heart into the last five years of our life.
2) For the last three months she has stoped comming home at night's, somtimes for days at a time, while i come home alone.
3) I've paid most of the bills for the longest time, and now that she want's to just 'up and move' im left with all of the bills
4) not 3 weeks ago, i co-signed on a new car for her
5) I got a new (day job) so we could spend evenings together, now she stays out every night, comming home when im in bed (3ish)
All of these things, for which i know your thinking "Thank god the H0 is leaving. I know, i know, but i love her, shes been my girl for ever, and now she just wants to leave??!?!? My heart is broken.
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2007-12-14 13:10:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok, so this means that yo uhave been together since she was...what...15? I am sorry to say this, but she wants to know what (if anything) that she has missed.
2007-12-14 13:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by Brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take her at her word. She says she wants to see the world. You two are young. Perhaps she's been involved in a relationship with you for most of her dating-aged life? She may feel like she wants to get out and do things before she settles down, or she may feel like she's missed out on something by settling down at too young an age.
Regardless her reasons, and I know how this must hurt, I think the best thing to do is let her go. Once she gets this out of her system, she may well come back and be ready to settle down in the way you want. But if she doesn't go, she might always resent you for preventing her from seeing the world (her perception).
Best wishes, I hope this helps.
2007-12-14 13:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by kyeri y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well join me and the million of us. My first love of 4yrs decided that having a baby was more important to him than an education and a stabled future. He just up and got another woman pregnant because I wanted to go to college instead of being a mother. Your wife don't deserve you anyway if she don't come home. At least he did come home when he was done ******* around on me. But that don't make it better! Some people just think they can come into your life be your bestfriend and then ditch you for a one nightstand. After we put our heart in it and let our feelings take over our minds. We try our best to be faithful and to give them everything they need or everything they want. A guy told me don't be cheese be steak. But some people just don't like steak they'd rather have a cheese steak instead you know what I mean. **** that loser she don't know what she got and won't care until your done with her. They only truly care when we give up on them. Tell her to grow up and be a women. Tell her your done and she needs to find a new dummy to live off of.
2007-12-14 13:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was definitely not thinking "Thank God the H0 is leaving". I was thinking, getting married before 20 is a massive mistake on both of your parts. You need to end this marriage asap. See a lawyer and get it over with. You've got a whole life ahead of you. Don't waste your time with this.
2007-12-14 13:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? She played you like a fiddle. You better get your name off that car and let the tramp go. She is seeing someone else. If you are paying the bills anyhow, it wouldn't make any difference that she's gone. You can't make a person stay with you. Even if you love her so much. She does not love you. The sooner you get that into your head, the better you will be.
2007-12-14 13:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst news of all in your alleged "question" is the fact that you cosigned on a car for her.
The first thing you need to do BEFORE anything else is find a good attorney and file for divorce.
When you have taken that step, let me know so I can advise you further.
Good luck. I will pray for you.
2007-12-14 13:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the problem is that we humans are creatures of habit. you have gotten into a habit of loving her and always taking care of her want and needs, that the broken heart you feel has become normal to you. Now if you could just to get into the habit of loving you the world will be all wonderful again.
2007-12-14 15:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by riggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww thats so sad. Do you love her or is she just familiar ? She doesn't seem worth the tears. Like everything else this too will pass. Think more of yourself and find someone who will love you back.
Good things will come your way with patience.
2007-12-14 13:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad you co-signed that new car. You'll be stuck with that or wreck your credit.
Read Divorce Busting..try to salvage this.
Talk to your minister - perhaps he can convince her.
If you want her back you must pull yourself together and be the most charming, kindest, & best of any guy she knows. This does not mean you agree with cheating.
Don't argue with her - that will send her further away.
Keep your home tidy and pleasant to come home to.
Best wishes,
Joy to you!
2007-12-14 13:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get a lawyer and see that she leaves with her clothes and NOTHING else.I know it hurts but use your head, she is leaving you for someone else or to go screw around without having to come home.
I am sorry for your pain but use your head and protect yourself financially.
2007-12-14 13:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋