Can somebody clear up the Mississippi Minor Marriage Laws???? I come from an abuse crazy family and this is my way out, please try to understand, I desperately need some help here. I dont want youre too young, I realize how old I am and what my responsibilities will bw okay. Just..plaese...help me.
2007-12-14 13:08:01 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry, you are too young.
Go see a trusted counselor at school for advice and resources to get out of your abusive household. Marriage will not solve your problems. It's a very adult, serious, and life-changing decision. Do NOT do it to escape abuse. It will only make your life worse.
EDIT:
Nice to see those of us telling her to not do it are getting all the thumbs down but those who seem to think it's okay are getting thumbs up. Where the hell are these people's priorities? She's 15! It's just stupid all the way around.
She needs to grow up and some of you REALLY need to get your priorities straight.
2007-12-14 13:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Honey in Mississippi you have to have parental consent under the age of 21. It says that if you do not have consent when you apply that the parents will be notified. Type in legal age of consent. The teenage marriage laws are on there listed in alphabetical order by state. With consent he has to be at least 17 and you have to be at least 15. Isn't there any other way out? Have you turned your parents in to social services for abuse? I don't know what else to tell you. If they are abusing you I would tell someone. A teacher at school or a friends mother, anyone. They will know what to do and who to notify. Will they let you just leave without being married? Can you stay with someone else? I hope you find a way out of this situation. Sorry that I could not be of more help.
2007-12-14 13:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Getting married as a means to escape from a crazy family as a way to get out isn't the way that marriage is suppose to work. You should marry for love! If you don't , you will find yourself into a situation that you won't want to be in as well as costing you in divorce if it should happen to come to that. I know you aren't saying that now and that it will never happen, but sure can. Ask me how I know???? I married for that same reason. I needed to get away from a mom who wasn't understanding. How would your boyfriend support you? What kind of job? Where would you live? Would you still go to school? It's a tough world out there. If you feel you are in an abused family, get a hold of family services or go to the police! This is the way you need to go! I am sorry you are going through such a difficult time. I found myself raising two kids, going through and ugly divorce and working 3 jobs to make ends meet. Don't fall into this for an escape as it just puts you back further into a pit hole. Go to school, get a good job and then decide for the future. I wish that I had.
2007-12-14 13:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Little girl you think that you have problems now, you just get married and see.
The second mistake that you'll make will be getting pregnant (first mistake is getting married).
Then, the third mistake will be not finishing school.
And the fourth and final mistake will be when you have to go crawling back to your so-called abusive family for help.
A 15 & 17 yr old cannot support themselves, you are fantasizing and dreaming.
If you really want to leave your family, then next year when you become 16, get emancipated and leave.
But whatever you decide to do, please don't go back home with your baby in tow, to cause your family more pain & strife.
It's really pathetic and disrepectful of young kids thinking that they know everything, then screw up their lives and think that hard working, loving parents should clean up their CRAP!
You do as you stupidly please, but deal with your consequences.
Because if you were truly being abused, you wouldn't have the fingers to use on your nice little computer.
All that parents truly owe you is a roof over your head, food in your stomach, clothes on your back and the opportunity to get an education. Be thankful because some kids don't even have that.
2007-12-14 13:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by dtown 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Getting married is not the answer. I would recommend going to the pastor of a local church that is part of a reputable major denomination, and asking for help and guidance. A United Methodist Church would be my recommendation. I know you don't want to hear this, but you are not yet an adult, and you simply can't turn yourself into one. If your parents are truly abusive, there are safety nets for you. It may involve living with another relative or foster parent--something that you may not want to do, but you must be willing to accept it anyway. Again, getting married is definitely NOT the answer. Focus on getting your education, on not getting pregnant, and on making the best of the lousy hand you've been dealt until you become 18 and can live on your own. There have been lots of people in much worse situations than yours who have not allowed those terrible circumstances to keep them from achieving their dreams. If your dream is to marry a 17 year old boy, you are definitely not ready for adulthood.
2007-12-14 13:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT the way out! If your family is abusive, contact DHS/Social Services and they will place you in a foster home. You can finish school and make your own way out.
At 15, you have no idea yet what you want out of life, what you want to do with your life, what you want in a mate, what qualities you should be looking for in a man.
I realize you'll probably reject what I'm saying because you are determined to do what you want to do. But please, do this the RIGHT way. Marrying someone for a way out of your current situation is not a good way to start a marriage.
Call the police, call social services, tell EVRYONE (school counselors, trusted teachers, pastor or youth leader at church) until SOMEONE listens to you about the abuse you are experiencing at home. Don't stop shouting it from the mountaintops until someone listens. Get yourself out of that home, but not by marriage.
If you marry to get out of your current situation, you may end up in a far worse situation, and then what will you do? Far better for you to make your own way, and then, when the two of you are of age, if you still want to get married by all means do so.
Best wishes, I hope this helps.
2007-12-14 13:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by kyeri y 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How do we know you come from an abusive home?
Some kids who dont get a cell phone and get to have their b/f sleep in their bed in their parents home scream abuse.
I am NOT saying you are not in an abusive home, I am saying we do not know that for a fact EITHER way.
Call a relative or a church and tell them WHY you want to leave, then FINISH school and get a job hon.
Unless your 17 yr old b/f has a good paying job, a place of his own, a car and pays his own way and you have dated a yr or 2 he will NOT be able to support you and you will end up breaking up.
You will change a lot in the next 10 yrs believe it or not and all the girls your age I have known who got married and had kids at your age, ended up angry and bitter later because they gave up the best years of their youth to raise kids 24-7.
2007-12-14 13:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by Joe F 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are too young, you are too young, you are too young!!! Get help for the abuse by going to a therapist, marriage is a COMMITMENT, not a way out. My mother used marriage out of her family, and where are we now? My mom is virtually dead, i've never met her, she was 19 and not ready for the responsibility. And me? My father and I are drowned in debt, barely able to survive. We had to choose between hot water, food, or HEAT last winter. With 7 people living in a 1-bedroom apartment, with only 1 bed, 1 couch, and 1 armchair. Is that what you want?
2007-12-14 13:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
im sorry, but there is no way for the two of u to get married, without parental consent. HOWEVER, if ur family is abusive, u can get EMANCIPATED. google that term, along with where your from, or maybe go to your city hall and ask someone. this means that u get to live apart from your family, but they have to pay you a monthly check. and legally u r an adult, but unless u have permission from your court appointed guardian, which he woudnt give u, u still cant get married. but at least u can get away from your family, and get married later on. another option would be going into a foster home. to do that, u have to notify the police, who will notify child services, and you will live in a home with a caretaker, and other kids who came from a similar background. its not so bad either...my friend danielle came from a foster home, and although her foster mom was really annoying, it wasnt bad at all. hope i could help.
2007-12-14 13:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Marriage might not be the best way out, but I understand why you feel that it would be... but since you didn't ask for my opinion about what you are doing, I would say the only way for you to get married right now would be for you to obtain parental consent. Unless you are able to support yourself, and if that is so speak with a local law office about what it take you to get emancipated at your age so you would no longer be under your their guardianship and would be legally an adult!
2007-12-14 13:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by ms.jackson... 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You BOTH need to grow up before you do anything. You are not thinking straight. I am 100% for your parents.
Dear God kids getting married at 15......You did go to school and get your education.
Running away from you problems will not do anything. I came from abused family and I didn't get married at 15. If there is abuse then report it. Marriage is NOT the answer.
2007-12-14 13:19:42 · answer #11 · answered by conny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋