I'm 19 and a virgin the guy i'm seeing is 18 the other day about 4 days ago i went over to his house and we started fooling around and getting aroused but i don't think it was enough arousal maybe could have needed more, but anyway he put on the condom and he went slow and he put it in and i felt a lot of pressure and it hurt really bad? Is that common? but it hurt so we stopped. ok the real question is, I'm ready to have sex but i'm afraid of the pain, should i go ahead and get it over with and does the pain go away for the first time. Is the pressure normal though? i need a lot of advice. anything yall have about first time sex give it to me.
plz thanks for yall times.=]
2007-12-14 13:02:38 · 5 answers · asked by Dava 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
O.K here it is, why not wait do you believe in signs??? That my dear was a sign for you to stop.Everything on this earth happens for a reason and on it's right time. That is not your right time. How about waiting to have sex with the man who will be your husband won't it be a wonderful gift to him instead of giving it to someone who probably won't appreciate it as much. Sure he will love the moment but than what??? Finds someone else and you You will stay without the one thing you could never get back. Think about it O.K
2007-12-14 13:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Likely not enough arousal. He should try oral and manual stimulation to bring you to orgasm and then you can return the favour, but no intercourse. Do this on a number of occasions until you feel good about the orgasm and comfortable with his finger (or two) inside you. For the big event, he needs to bring you to the brink of orgasm with mouth or hand, then while you are well lubricated and wanting him, use a condom, lots of extra lube and enter slowly. You will should feel pressure but not pain, the pressure is actually pleasureable for most women.
2007-12-14 13:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Judy B 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well it's going to hurt like crazy the first time. It's going to keep hurting little by little as you get used to doing it. Eventually you will adjust to it and you will feel pleasure. Good thing that he went in slow. When I lost my virginity I was moaning in pain, not pleasure. I bled then, and bled a few more times after that. It just takes awhile. Sex for me now is complete pleasure!
2007-12-14 13:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by Nany 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup your perfectly normal. Maybe try some lube or practice with toys at home. Once you are more relaxed and begin to enjoy it it won't feel bad. Good luck and keep using those condoms.
2007-12-14 14:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anyone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pressure is normal. The trick is to relax and expect some discomfort and bleeding. Each time will be less uncomfortable. So just relax.
2007-12-14 13:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by emtd65 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋