We agreed to separate and live in different rooms. No intimacy for 3 years, no kids. He lied that he wanted them for 7 years, I ended up having an affair after 2 years of sleeping alone.. Suppose, we hurt each other in the past, but he just can't stop! He checks for my "whereabouts", eats my food (does not bother to clean) and demand me to bring him crisps and salsa. Three weeks it was "I don't want you to spend Christmas with my parents", then yesterday "I never told you that", then "you should come if you are going to be alone". My brain melts. Tonight I found his love letters with a young girl (he is 39) he met over Internet. She is from a small city in Russia and sends him photos (okay, not in bikinis, but still a bit too much for first letters). I don't care - whatever! But it hurts! I don't even fully understand my feelings! It's over, for sure. I don't see any chances for future. But I am just so exhausted! Coming home and having to put up with his antics!
2007-12-14 12:53:59 · 11 answers · asked by Alyssa Macey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You see, I am a positive person (or so I think), but I just can't see how I could ever get involved with any man. I moved countries for our marriage, and my family and close friends are back home.. No, it's not always "poor me"< I just cracked today, suppose...
2007-12-14 12:56:44 · update #1
Btw, I do say "no" a lot, but he become incredibly spiteful!
2007-12-14 13:01:38 · update #2
He promised to move out in January. Can't wait!
2007-12-14 13:02:13 · update #3
It takes 4 years here for a divorce to come through, and legally it's not good for me to leave the house. I met a solicitor already.
2007-12-14 13:03:37 · update #4
You are in no mans land right now. As long as you are living under one roof, no mans land is going to be he ll. Not picking a direction is a miserable place to be because you are complacent in your life. As long as you are together, the both of you will find it difficult to move forward, because your past is still attached and present in your life. Perhaps that is why he is focusing on girls who live far away. Living like this is difficult for the both of you, and just as you have some unresolved feelings, he does too. Perhaps his instability comes from those mixed feelings. (One day you are okay with it, and the next day it is really sad.)
You only have a few more weeks to go before he moves out so do your best to find things to do so that you do not have to see him during the day. Eat out if you can or shop for your food on a daily basis. Once you part ways, you will be able to heal your hearts and find a way to let someone new into your life again.
2007-12-14 14:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is why people need to get to know a person a year or 2 before getting married.After the first 3 yrs I would have told him counseling or divorce your pick.
All men arent the same and even women will do the same rotten things to you any man would do,depending on the person.
File for divorce and move back home.
2007-12-14 13:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-11 07:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from russia with love. just feel good about that because she only wants one thing to get to usa and her papers and for the other sorry abot that if you want to talk email me at ,,, odela1950@yahoo.com wish you the best
2007-12-14 13:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a baseball bat and swing it into his car headlights. Then carve your name into his leather seats, and slash his tires.
Sorry, it's advice from a song I like :)
2007-12-14 12:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by ¡muy caliente! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your toothbrush and leave. Don't look back. GO
2007-12-14 13:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by arvindrenamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant see why you are together at all ,did you ask for a divorce?
2007-12-14 13:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you and him need to live in different houses.
2007-12-14 13:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No kids, there is no reason to stay.
2007-12-14 13:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by springful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE OUt OF THERE ALREADY
2007-12-14 13:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋