and he seeks comfort in another womans bed for the night ,and the wife is attacked in her home when her husnabd should be there .Has she only herself to blame .
2007-12-14 12:51:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was just trying to think of intersting questions ,
and get some wifes thinking .
2007-12-14 12:59:44 · update #1
Jane I would say it was his fault ( for not taking a bat)
2007-12-14 13:00:45 · update #2
no one was attacked ....
2007-12-14 13:19:05 · update #3
Its her own fault.When you starve a man he will go elsewhere to eat.When he is starved for love and affection he will go somewhere where they are WANTING to give him love and attention.Yes, he shouldnt have cheated and he should have been home, or maybe he should have divorced her, then it wouldnt have been his problem at all, either way , SHE is the one who brought it about in the end.If SHE had taken care of her husband like she should, he WOULD have been home.
2007-12-14 12:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You've already gone way beyond the call of duty in regards to trying to fix things. Seriously, 99% of men would not try as hard as you to save the marriage. She is extremely lucky to have someone like yourself. She clearly has some very serious and very deep issues that are causing her self-esteem to be zero. Is she taking medication for mental issues? If so, get her off them and see what happens. She might go nuts a bit but at least you'll get some insight into what her issues are. If she's drugged up, then it's not really her you are with but some mind-altered drone that the Frankensteins at the doctor's office have created. Get rid of the drugs and see what she's really like. That's step one. If you've done that, or if she's not on drugs, then just keep trying to pry the info. out of her. Show extreme patience and attentiveness. Do not talk, just ask questions and listen. If you do that for a few days straight and still nothing, try talking to a psychologist or marriage counselor. They may not find the exact truth but they will surely point out some issues you haven't considered. You seem very sincere and so a professional would be in a good position to help. If that doesn't work, then make it plain as day that you are ready to leave her if she doesn't change. Get her to admit that she doesn't mind that because if she did mind it, she'd take your needs into consideration. It'll be hard to get such an admission but the logic of it is clear cut and so you must be unrelenting. When she finally does admit it, then you'll be in a good position to end things amicably. Start talking about specifics of the break-up and find a way to do it with the least amount of pain. Once that's done, and it will take a few months at least, then you can do your option number 3. Option number 2 should be what you do in the meantime. It's not a permanent solution, just something to tie you over until you resolve the complex marriage issues.
2016-04-09 03:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answering the bit about his wife being attacked first, it was a pure coincidence that she was attacked while he was away. It's similar to not accompanying your wife on a shopping tour and she is the victim of a road accident or mugging.
Coming to why he was away, I'm afraid that many women don't realise that by constantly refusing sex is going to drive him into the bed of another woman.He should resist, but once you have experienced a marriage bed, there is no substitute for it, and the testerone does build up over a period of days.
A neighbour's mother once told her daughter that the best way to obtain a divorce was to deliberately with hold sex with her husband for several months and eventually he would find his pleasures elsewhere and could then be trapped.
How do I know this, the mother in law boasted to a group of female friends after the divorce came through, and one of those females, my sister, told me.
2007-12-15 01:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by clovernut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you blame a woman for being attacked? It is not her fault. She still could have been attacked if he were home.
2007-12-14 13:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but once you've made that commitment to each other then you must be faithful. If she is refusung sex then maybe she just isn't in the mood, or he's pressurising her which will made her more fridgid.
No husband should stray, and I hope he is feeling extremally guilty!
2007-12-15 01:07:58 · answer #5 · answered by clarkspetcouriers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what about if the husband is attacked on his way to see the other woman? or what if he is attacked in her home by her husband? has he only himself to blame?
2007-12-14 12:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by Janeywaney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you got yourself to blame on a couple of things. First, you were cheating. Second, your wife got hurt, and it seems like you don't give a damn.
2007-12-14 12:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by Scott M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? Her husband went to another woman? Is this for real?
Or just BS
2007-12-14 13:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by D J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting plot scenario. Who broke in? Anyone we know? Hmmmmmmmmmmmm?
2007-12-14 12:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by DeFreeze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apples and oranges-No one to blame but the perpetrator if she's attacked-
2007-12-14 12:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋