Would men really want a 33yr old with 3 kids?

Question

Thinking about divorcing my husband b/c I am no longer in love with him but I am scared that I will live the rest of my life, or at least the better part of near future alone. I have 3 youngs kids and they are a handful but I am very intelligent, outgoing and attractive, some might even say very beautiful. Am I setting myself up for disaster/heartache?

Answer 1

HEY! HEY!
Doesn't anyone consider the CHILDREN here? Divorce HURTS CHILDREN! Childrend need BOTH THEIR mom AND DAD.

This woman is considering something very selfish and destructive.

People! Think of all the kids damaged by a selfish mom dumpping their father for such shallow reasons.

Why do you want to ABANDON the father of your YOUNG children and DEPRIVE them of their father.

You are being very selfish to think you can leave because you aren't "in love" with your husband.

You are indeed setting yourself up for all sorts of heartache.

But the heartache you would inflict on your children would be emotional child abuse.

GROW UP you selfish child!

Finish raising your children, preferably with their father.

The news is full of tragic stories of children beaten or killed by the boyfriend, second husband, shack-up of a divorced or single mother. Do you really want to take that chance with the children you supposedly love?

Remember NO STEP FATHER IS BETTER THAN A BAD ONE.

Answer 2

If I were in your shoes, I would probably sit down with myself and write out a big long list of reasons why I'm no longer in love with my husband. After doing so, I think it would be best if you talked to you husband about some of these things as well. You really don't want to put your kids through such heartache and pain if they really don't need too, plus you and your husband don't want that either! Maybe ya'll could go to counseling or something or maybe just talk it out. If ya'll think it's best to get a divorce, then at least you decided as a couple it's best. As for a single mom looking for someone, I bet there's a guy out there who would love you for you and love spending time with your kids! Also, you want to make sure that the next guy, whoever it may be, gets along with your kids. I am a sr. in high school and you wouldn't believe all of my friends who hate their step parents and decide that they want nothing to do with their parent and decide to either move out or live with another family member or parent. It's quite sad. There's a lot you need to consider in making this decision. Make sure that you're not just bored and only thinking about yourself when making this decision. I'm not trying to judge you because I don't even know you. I'm just trying to help in the best way I can and tell you what I know. I hope I helped some! Good luck!

Answer 3

You are, if you are relying on another man to come your way, but you said you are intelligent, if so prove it by making an intelligent decision, you are talking about taking the kids away from their natural father, because you do not love him any more, is it the kids fault? Why should they suffer the loss of their father, because you change you mind about your life partner, you never mention him being cruel or not being a good husband or father.
Why should any other men take you or your kids on, you are likely to walk off when you decide you are not in love with the next one as well,
I did not even hear you say that you are well educated, that you will find or have work to support your family if and when you will divorce, you are just wondering if you will found another meal ticket, grow up

Answer 4

33 is NOT the time to give up the ghost sweetie! Imagine, you will probably live to over double the age you are now...if you are no longer in love with your husband at this stage, then why subject yourself to the equivalent of another lifetime in a loveless marriage!? It is always sad when a family breaks up, however you will know within your heart if it is better for you or your children in the long run. What message does it send your children if they see you defeated and trapped in an unhappy marriage? Certainly not any good ones that's for sure! At 33 you are still a young woman. Plenty women don't have ANY children at 33, and actively seek a partner. Your children are the ultimate test for a potential future partner...a man who really loves you, and I mean LOVES you will love your children too...they are a part of you, and I am sure you would agree, make you complete. If a man cannot accept them, then he cannot accept you and just is not worth your time or energy. Good luck with everything whatever you choose to do and stay strong :]

Answer 5

there r lotsa good men out here that would have no problem with a gal with kids. we r not all what some think of us as guys who r looking 4 gals without kids...we r smart enuf 2 know that many if not most gals who r over 30 and divorced will have kids and that if we want a relationship with them we will b willing 2 have a relationship with the children as well and r willing 2 accept the responsibilities.

however, i do suggest u try everything u can 2 work on ur marriage first as divorce not only affects the man and woman but the children as well and i believe all marriages can b mended/repaired if both r willing 2 work at it.

good luck and GOD bless.

Answer 6

I hope you dont have any problems, you are still young! I am in almost the same boat. I am 34 yrs old and I have 2 kids (5 and 6). I have been married 10+ yrs and am no longer in love with him, I am wondering the same thing. I also make more money than my husband and I am attractive ( I dont know about beautiful) Anyway I am so glad you asked this question. Thanks
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Answer 7

It all depends what kind of husband you have? If your big complaint is he does not give you attention or help around the house or hides in the garage then no DON'T LEAVE!
In my book most men are the same.
Your post described me and if I could do it all over again I would have stayed.
I think it is worse when you are good looking like me because men look at you like a sex object.
I have yet to find a man that had respect for me the way my husband did now his problems dont seem so big.

Stay for you and your kids!

TRUST ME!

Answer 8

Yes, there are men out there who are caring and loving, and would not care that a woman has three kids.

As a matter of fact, I have a friend (we are 34) who was seperated for more than two years. Her divorce was final this past spring. She has 3 kids, ages 6, 8 , 11. She met a wonderful man, with a good career, and two children of his own. They are now extremely happy together. I call them the "Brady Bunch 2".

You are young. After your divorce take time to enjoy your freedom and the time you have with your precious children. When the time is right, you will find love.

Answer 9

Who can say?
I married a women 10 years older than me who had 3 kids, so it can happen, but nobody can say you won't be alone for the next 20 years because nobody knows.

I'm not saying stay or go but if you're not happy with the life you know how will staying change that? But you might end up unhappy with the way your life turns out, it's a risk you have to take and live with.

Good luck

Answer 10

Bill W needs a muzzle and is probably bitter...

I think you should try and work things out with your husband first so there are no regrets later. Why don't you "love him" anymore? How will this affect your children? If you're thinking only about getting a divorce if you can find another man, that's really lame. You need to think about what's right for you, your partner, and your children.... not whether someone will take you after you get a divorce.

Answer 11

I will give you the exact same advice I gave my mother when I was 24. You have one life to live, don't spend it unhappy. My mum, bless her, is overweight, smokes like a chimney and has a life well lived all over her face in wrinkles. And she has just celebrated her third wedding anniversary with her second husband. He married her and instantly became a grandad to my three kids and my brothers two.

So, take a breath, analyse whether you are really out of love with your husband or perhaps suffering from depression (quite natural after having kids). If the answer is definate, that you are not happy in your relationship, take that step.

Its important for your mental health as well as that of your children.