Do you believe in the saying"spare the rod.."?

Question

Spoil the Child?
If so then why?

Answer 1

Yes. People don't even know what this verse means. They take it as a free pass to abuse their children. I know my parents did. When it says " spare the rod" it is referring to the Shepard's staff. So if you think about it, it's actually very beautiful. It refers to teaching and leading.

Answer 2

I do but I don't hit my kids.

I think it must be taken figuratively speaking. It basically means you have to be stern with your children. They need to be taught discipline from the time they start rebelling, and this could be right from the get go, but physically hitting them is not the answer.

Granted, it may catch their attention to give them an odd smack, but it only makes YOU feel terrible and out of control and THEM feel betrayed.

A parents should never hurt their child. You need to teach children discipline from the day they are born. You can't "untrain" them (easily enough) if you've set them up with bad habits or give in to temper tantrums.

If you have let your child run loose and out of control for years and then suddenly think that "the rod" is going to teach them a thing or do you are sadly mistaken. At that point you have to deal with it in other ways and it may be too late for you to "teach" them anything. They will have to find their own way.

So do it right from the beginning. Sadly not many have the skills nor the gumption for "tough love". By the age of 10 or so, your child should be pretty well conditioned that conversation is all you really need to resolve conflicts.

You are sending them mixed messages when you let them do what they want on the one hand, and then expect them to "know" the difference between right or wrong.

Children learn basically by emulating those around them, mostly YOU. When you can point out what is wrong about someone else's behaviour and why, they are less apt to behave like the "bully" or they may consider the other person's feelings and "share" and this is how interaction with other children are taught.

Children need to resolve problems and need to learn conflict resolution and practice these skills amongst themselves much like adults do in training sessions. I've often used that approach on the playground and have kids "enact" what took place and learn to find a resolution where both sides are happy. It works! ;~)

Answer 3

Yes, I do. I feel most of what's wrong with our society today is there has been to many children just running loose with out any discipline or redirection. I work for a pre-school and the rules here are so stupid. Your not aloud to raise your voice, point your finger or anything they could be a violation to a child. How are they supposed to learn circumstances and that bad behavior is not OK. That's why we have a world of violent kids who think they can do anything they want and get away with it. I'm not talking about beating children, but disciplining them and letting them learn how to be well adjusted and compassionate human beings.

Answer 4

yeah. I'm not going to say that it worked for me, because it didn't. It scared me, and I flinched every time my mom even raised her hand towards me... when it so happens, all she was doing was fixing my hair or something. I was way too sensitive for spakings. Usually, letting my parents down was enough. Every child is different. It just depends on what works for the child's behavior. But ultimately, physical violence, or abuse, or reacting to a child physically because of anger, is NEVER acceptable. A conversation and a reason for spanking should always be made clear with the child before the spanking.

Answer 5

That's from back in the day when people believed "Children should be seen and not heard." Hey! My mother said that!

Answer 6

No. If a brat needs an asswhooping, then he shall receive.

This world doesn't need any more Paris Hiltons.

Answer 7

It worked for me on my son.

Answer 8

WHAP!..lol