Why am I not attracted to black women?

Question

I'm not going to lie, I've had some shaky experiences with black women growing up and some still to this day. So maybe that's why I don't find black women very attractive. I lean towards Hispanic women as far as what I find attractive. I feel kind of guilty about it though, because I know all black women aren't as bad as the ones that gave/give me a hard time. It kind of feels like I'm being racist against my own kind. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Answer 1

That's an interesting dilemma you've got there.

Unfortunately I doubt anyone other than yourself can really provide the answer.

There are plenty of attractive Black women out there and let's be honest, they , like all women, come in all shapes and sizes.

As a rule, I am not primarily attracted to Black women. I absolutely love white girls, there are so many varieties and I still haven't tried them all out!!! but c'mon, Rihanna!, Beyonce! and plenty more besides. Tell me you don't find them attractive. I'm damn sure I do!

If I 'm honest I find it strange, and a little depressing that you are black and you don't find other black people attractive. That's not a judgement, just an incomprehension.

Answer 2

No, but you are wrong for applying the word "racist" to it. You don't like certain things because you simply don't like those things. Sometimes there doesn't even have to be a reason why; you just don't like it or you are unfamiliar with it.

I'm not racists towards white women, and I don't even notice most white women because they are not what I am looking for, but every now and then I will come across a unique beauty and the fact that she's white doesn't enter into my mind until later. The last time I found a white woman attractive was while going through a box of photos that my grandmother had, I came across a photo of Audrey Hepburn. I normally never give white women a 2nd thought but this woman was beautiful indeed. I would have to say she had a unique beauty that I don't see in a lot of modern, day women.

Just an answer and an opinion.

Answer 3

Everyone has different taste. I have very fair skin, red-blond hair and freckles, yet I'm most attracted to Latino, Mediterranean or Arab men, and pretty much never to Northern European-looking guys. Could also be because of bad experiences growing up and going to school in England and Sweden, or it could be that I just like the exotic. I don't question it so much and neither should you. Just go with what makes you happy. If you are attracted to a woman then that's the way it is, you can't make yourself feel attraction for someone just because you think you should, you'd become unhappy. :-)

Answer 4

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Why am I not attracted to black women?
I'm not going to lie, I've had some shaky experiences with black women growing up and some still to this day. So maybe that's why I don't find black women very attractive. I lean towards Hispanic women as far as what I find attractive. I feel kind of guilty about it though, because...

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with that. I'm a black woman and is only attracted to non black men. I always have been. In my opinion non black men, not all but majority are educated, employed, responsible and doesn't believe in getting every women on this earth pregnant and not providing financially for their children.

Answer 6

Yes you are wrong, IF you are not attracted to black women for the reason that A FEW of them hurt you; that is not being responsible. I hate it when black men use their horrible experiences with black women to justify their love for women of other races. If you are not attracted to black women, then fine, but just be a man about it.

Answer 7

I know how you feel, I am the same way, but I am totally not racist, I am against it highly, have friends of all races, I think if you are white, you prefer white, if you are black you prefer black.. usually you see people of the same skin colour.. together.. dating, now and then it is inter-racial, it must have something to do with nature.. not in a mean way but similar to... scared of something different, or even see them as a different species or something, not on purpose, just subconsciously, or if you are not used to it.. then it is different.. and so not appealing to most, maybe if you were brought up around only black women your whole life you would like them, also the experiences you had would make you cautious and distance yourself from them as a whole race, it isn't wrong, almost everyone in the world likes people that pretty much are the opposite sex..but the same as themselves, plus or minus some features...

Hardly anyone admits it, because it sounds racist, but it is the same for all races

Answer 8

Relationships are not easy at all; there's a lot of give & take!

So, Stop Generalizing, Pleeze!

Since you've had bad experiences with black women, then those are the bad (persay) women who were attracted to you, for whatever reason.

Let me clarify this, sweetee: You are going to have bad experiences with women of all races, based on who you are as an individual.

What role do you play in relationships?

Are you the delicate little puppy, who is looking to be primped & pampered?

Are you willing to go the extra mile for your woman or do you want her to roll out the red carpet , so you can walk it daily?

It takes two to tango!

Answer 9

Don't feel bad. I believe the majority of black women are beginning to feel the way about black men. I guess this is due to their down low behavior and HIV rates, unemployment and many other problems. Black female celebraties such as Kerry Washington Garcelle Beauves, The Williams sisters, Gabrielle Union, and many others are leading the way in this "Something New" trend. I myself am finding myself more attracted to non-black men (I detest thugs). Since going to a basically all white university I'm beginning to love ppl to other races. Follow ur heart.

Answer 10

Firstly, I don't think that you are really racist. If you were a dyed-in-the-wool racist, you wouldn't be worried about being one. If you think that your problems are caused by bad experiences with black women, it may (or may not) help you to try not to think of people as being black, white, or whatever. Contrary to what Western culture tells us, the colour of someone's skin is no more important than the colour of their eyes or hair. Ask yourself why you are not attracted to women with the same skin colour as those who hurt you in the past, but (as your attraction to Hispanic women shows) you are not turned off by women with the same eye colour.

On the other hand, you lack of attraction to black women might just be that; you don't happen to find them attractive. Going back to what I said earlier, some people find women with certain hair colour more attractive that others: it would be naive to believe that some people do not find different skin colours attractive. If this is the case, then as long as you consider everyone to be of equal moral worth, you are not racist for finding Hispanic women more attractive than black women, just as you are not sexist for finding women more attractive than men. I hope that helps.