my husband is a cheater or jus having fun........wanna knw wat other men think?

Question

we have been married 4 2 yrs, ppl say we r a well matched couple........my hsband doesnt knw that i knw the password of his email account.......i check it once in a while coz jus 2 months after our wedding i found him chatting 2 annonmyous girls.........we had a big arguement, i deleted all his contacts.....he apologised saying there's nothin 2 worry bout, he was jus making a fool of ppl. He promised he wont do it again n i thought i was the end.........but 2day visited his account after long time n was surprised 2 see loads of new email contacts........all girls..........few msgs.......a girl has also sent her photos n a bit mention of dirty stuff. He normally deletes his sent msgs, so cant see those ones.
Now i m in dilemma........dnt knw wat 2 do.........he is nice n cool...........goes straightway 2 work n comes home on time everyday.........there is no other reason 2 suspect him.......do u think he is cheater? do most of the married men do this jus 4 fun? plz

Answer 1

Listen sweetie, your husband is not respecting you. Ok everyones allowed to make a mistake and you are married so i understand accepting his apology but If he promised you that he would not do this again he needs to honor the apology he made and the word he gave that he would not do this. First you need to be sure that these msgs are not spam. Did he actually read the mail that was sent or was you the first one to open it? If he didnt even read them then i wouldnt worry to much but if he did then you need to talk to him and find out why he's still communicating with other women. You should go to marriage counseling/couples counseling-Don't skip this part because it can be extremely helpful to your relationship. Maybe your husband has a fantasy or something, maybe he's afraid to tell you about that part of himself. You have to be open to hear what he has to say so don't come at him all mad and angry, try to get him comfortable enough to talk to you let him know that your concerned about his behavior and you need some straight answers. Caution:He just may tell you something that will blow your socks off but you must try to remain calm and let him fully express himself-you need to be loving and supportive of him-I have to believe that he loves you because he married you and if this is the only issue you have with him and you love him then you can talk about it and then discuss what to do about it. If it is difficult to talk maybe you can try to write him a letter and he can respond by writing, it maybe be easier to communicate a difficult subject this way but you will eventually have to talk openly about it. If he is in fact doing those things then if he is not cheating yet he will and don't be fooled just cause he keeps his pattern of work and back home doesnt mean he doesnt have an opportunity to cheat-alot of affairs start in the work place and there are those lunch dates. Bottom line if someones gonna cheat nothing can stop them but them. Also this is not what married men should do, it is very immature and he should have stayed single if he wanted to play around. Good Luck

Answer 2

I suggest you ask him. If you can't talk to him openly about this stuff then something is wrong with your relationship. it may be he is just being tempted, but things like this can soon get out of hand and also they can become an addiction even to the best of men. he may not be doing anything physically, but emotionally he may be cheating. Sounds like you are having problems with your relationship and need some counseling if you cannot resolve this yourself or keep it under control. Marriage is a lot of work and only gets more work overtime. The moment you let up and start taking things for granted is when temptations will sneak in and tempt one of the spouses.

Answer 3

YAP he is, it is only a matter of time and he will meet up with one of there girls. I cannot believe that he has you that whooped that you can't see this for what it is. He says you have nothing to worry about... I would tell him HE DOES. And leave if he refuses to treat your marriage with respect.

Answer 4

Cheater FOR SURE! He's like the other nasty slime balls!!!! If he hasn't already been unfaithful... he will be! Its cheating if he can't do it in front of you!!! Hes keeping it a secret right? He should be using the engery hes spending on these annonmyous woman... and not you!!! Your his wife!!!! He should not be talking dirty to any woman!!!!

Answer 5

If he isn't cheating, then he is immature and not committed to a "normal" marriage or relationship. That junk is for singles.

Answer 6

It Might be Spam, like from porn.....or he is cheating on you, I would never cheat on my wife,......thats terrible...but hey I don't know doesn't sound like my cup of tea but hey you married this guy so make it work...

Answer 7

Bad news baby. You are not putting out enough. He is looking elsewhere and you shouldn't check behind him. You should do what I did and start your own account on plentyoffish.com, fling.com or adultfriendfinder

Answer 8

I think he is looking. I don't have an answer as to what you should do but as I said, I think he is on the prowl.

Answer 9

I would talk to him about it again. He shouldnt need to do that type of stuff in my opinion.

Answer 10

if you are married you should not be interacting with members of the opposite sex behind your spouse's back . that in it self should send up a red flag...................... i do not know if he is cheating. but that issue need to be confronted.............