my best friend just got married.We have been best friends scince we were 11yrs old ( now 24).we have been like brothers and always did everything together,and i covered him countless times,but for whatever reason,he decided not to have me stand up at his wedding (i was invited though and i did go) but instead he had my younger brother and his AA sponser (who he had known for about 1yr now)be groomsmen along w/ his brother(understandable). maybe we aren't as good of friends as i had thought.I feel really hurt by his decision and i really don't think any explanation he could give would make things alright( i mean i'm not in any of the pictures).i'd hate to see this ruin a otherwise good friendship.has anyone had something simmilar happen to them?any suggestions on what to do?thanks.(p.s. mostly just venting)
2007-12-14 11:07:30 · 8 answers · asked by sean k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You know what, I've never really thought about it but I can see how that would suck. On the one hand you want to downplay it for fear of losing your "man" card, but at the same time it IS a slap in the face that stings. you probably want to know "why", but how do you intend to find out? I can think of a lot of reasons why you wouldn't just blurt something like that out. What's your plan?
2007-12-14 11:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good that you have just gotten it of your back .I am not trying to be rude here so plz don't take this the wrong way but he owes you nothing ,you and him have been friends for long time but there must have been a dam good reason why he chose his AA sponsor this is a big day with lots of drinking go on and it can be tempting so i would respect that as his friend don't let this eat at you don't loose your friendship because you didn't get what you would have liked ,Like i said there would be a good reason why just leave it .Live and Let Live
2007-12-14 12:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by this account is no longer in use 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I can understand why you would feel upset. Can't really give you a reason for it. My best friend was invited to a bachelor party for one of his good friends from high school a few months ago...these 3 guys were really close and they only invited my best friend to be the DD...he didn't even get an invite to the wedding. He was really hurt. The other of the friends was not only invited, he was the bestman...
2007-12-14 11:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by MamaBear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe it is very brave to vent your problems. i think you should calmly speak w/him about the situation and maybe hes got a reason that you will understand. if not at least you know what it is now and you can come to a comprimization on how to fix it. lots of luck
2007-12-14 11:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kissez frm me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this is something you should ask him yourself. We can all sit here speculating till the cows come home, but it won't be the actual reason.
Call him up and tell him how you feel.
P.S. - Not all chicks sound like that.
2007-12-14 11:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i supose you could just talk to him i mean you've been friends for that long im sure he will understand
2007-12-14 11:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by smetremont 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe there was another reason, talk to him but don't get mad over nothing. it was his choice and it's done with
2007-12-14 11:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by =^.^= 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a chick.
2007-12-14 12:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋