My husband and I are in the process of a ugly divorce. Our 5 kids want to get us christmas gifts,how should we handle it? Who should buy the gifts?? Should I buy a gift for my ex?? Should he buy me a gift??
2007-12-14 10:55:48 · 12 answers · asked by bettys5incali 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You two should put aside your feelings and go Christmas shopping for the sake of your kids. That way, you both will have a say on what is spent and what it's spent on. Christmas shouldn't be the time the kids remember as mom and dad split. It can do a number on a kid. If you two want to exchange gifts, then do so. Good luck.
2007-12-14 11:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by hazeleyedbeauty1967 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you two should exchange gifts so the children will see that Christmas is a time for love no matter what the situation.
You each should take them shopping to get the other one something or have a plan to make something special.
Five kids? Can't you two work out a reconciliation. That would be the best of Christmas of all - unless, of course, he's violent.
Pray about it please. And visit some of the marriage restoration websites and read Divorce Busting.
Divorce is expensive and harmful to the children.
Joy to you!
2007-12-14 21:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids should not be made to choose who they love more; they will always love both mom and dad.
I think it would be best if you bought your husband a gift the kids pick out, and make it clear that the gift is from them.
He should do the same thing: Take the kids out so they can choose a gift for you.
What you would both be doing is showing the kids that Christmas is about peace ---although I imagine it will be hard for you if you two are really angry at each other.
Think about what is best for the kids.
2007-12-14 19:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by Nena S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My divorce was not pleasant either but both my ex and I always bought gifts from the kids for each other. It is just the right thing to do for the sake of the kids.
2007-12-14 19:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are the KIDS????
Give them some money (like$20 each--10 to spend on Dad, 10 on you).
Take them shopping, and help them choose something appropriate.
You have no control over what HE does, but I don't think you & he buying gifts for each other is at all appropriate.
2007-12-14 19:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you need a battle plan to buy gifts? Anyone who wants to give a present to another member of the family should buy the gift and give it to them. In other words, if your children want to get you and their father something, they should go ahead and do so. If your soon-to-be ex wants to give you a present, he can do so too. Only you can decide whether you feel like giving him one.
In a nutshell, everyone should make up their own minds about whom they want to get gifts for.
2007-12-14 19:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd help the kids get your soon to be ex something, but absolutely, do not get each other something. There's a reason your divorce is ugly.
2007-12-14 19:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by Scott M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorrry to hear that...but i think it would be a great idea if you both bought each other gifts, give the kids a little something to beleive in....and it would let them know, even if it isnt the case there is still something between yall, be nice to each other...
2007-12-14 19:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by happy2beme60 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea sure ask your kids to make the gifts for you both...in buying kids gifts you should do it separately they can get two gifts
2007-12-14 19:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by just bored 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe so remember one thing is you and him another thing is your kids. Dont ruin there christmas, hey you guys should do it for them and become friends. Go with the kids let them deside what they want to give to each other.
2007-12-14 19:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by janet_23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋