Just to make our soon to be marriage better, is there things we could learn to help us better our relationship and marriage. We have fights sometimes and I just want to know how to better our relationship when we get married. now he doesn't want to go to counseling, how should I convince him that its just for help and not because we have problems now.
2007-12-14 10:47:32 · 13 answers · asked by Ethan's Mama 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it sounds like a great idea. Most people only begin to get counseling after things are so bad it is hard to pick up the pieces. Going into the marriage with the tools to prevent issues from becoming more than they need to be and being able to understand each other even more sounds like a responsible decision to make. I highly recommend it.
2007-12-14 10:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is an excellent idea...I really think more and more couples should try it. What would you have to loose by trying something like this. Maybe in time, it will mandatory for couples to seek some sort of counseling before a marriage license is granted. If not with 1st marriages, maybe even the ones thereafter. . . Good luck honey,you are already on your way to married bliss.
2007-12-14 18:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They offer premarital counseling to discuss what to expect but actual marriage counseling classes are usually reserved for problems incurred during a marriage to try and save a marriage from a divorce. Because every marriage is different,its hard to define what challenges you two might encounter before hand and every couple fights. Good luck and best wishes
2007-12-14 19:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a great idea to go to couples counselling to prepare yourself for what issues can come up in marriage and learn how to constructively handle them without getting into major fights or ultimately end up divorced.
2007-12-14 19:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's called pre-marital counseling :)
Definitely go. You can work out any unresolved issues you two might have....and the best part is....he can't walk away if he doesn't want to hear what you have to say LOL.
Just tell him, "It's important to me that we go and start our marriage off on the right foot. It'd mean a lot to me if you'd go. I really don't understand how you would not want to strengthen our marriage....what are your reasons for not wanting to go?"
Hear what he has to say. If he doesn't go, go without him. You can still benefit from it.
Good luck :)
-kiki
2007-12-14 19:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I married, I met with our church pastor and it was mandatory that we both meet with him before walking down the aisle.
It was a good thing we did. We talked about how we would work together as a team and how God is involved in our marriage.
He also made the judgement whether or not he gave us his blessings or not.
2007-12-14 19:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by simpleminded 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a VERY smart move.
It would give you some valuable tools for handling the big AND small crises that constantly show up in a marriage.
2007-12-14 18:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a good idea, and in fact i would suggest it, and under those circumstances you should not get married with going to counselings first, hope things work out for you
2007-12-14 20:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by George 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i would highly recommend it. that way you guys can get to know each other a lil better. and a better understanding of any preconceived notions yu guys have about what marriage is.
2007-12-14 18:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by Hotgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by all means, if you feel you need to, get some advice. all couples fight, but if you fight more than not, maybe you should hold off a little longer. if he doesn't want to go, then he's not facing reality.
2007-12-14 18:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋