About 5 mons ago I made a simple myspace account for my husband(for his distant family to see) He had nothing to do with it till about a week ago when all of a sudden he was fixing it up with music,pics,bios ect. Well last night I came home early from work to find him sleeping on couch and his myspace page up. For about a week he was sending/receiving private msgs. from a old gf(she had contacted him 1st) u could tell by what she said she was still interested in him. Now there was nothing bad in any of his responces to her but there was NO mention of me and he would respond to her PM as soon as he got them(like he was watching for them).Plus he never once said anything to me about this.Now when I asked him about this he played it off as no big deal but as soon as he could he went and deleted his whole account.Why if it was no big deal? My concern is he has a history with this gf as he cheated on his last wife with her and I don't want history to repeat itself.
2007-12-14 09:46:16 · 32 answers · asked by fffff d 1 in Computers & Internet ➔ Internet ➔ MySpace
I totally understand and find that fishy. I wouldn't be happy either. I would be super careful and keep an eye on him. Give him a warning that if he messes up then thats it.
2007-12-14 09:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem that needs confrontation.
a. He was making himself look attractive and tried to allow his page to say a lot about what he is and his quality of person. The fact that you weren't mentioned on the page speaks A LOT of the quality of person he is.
b. He realized that you knew probably a lot more about this than he does, and that may be why his answers were so homogenous, except that again you who is supposedly THE major player in his life, his great love and all that. In all honesty, particularly when talking about exes, you should be the first thing he mentions. Isn't that what you do?
c. He got rid of the evidence immediately. Why would he do that if its his way of communicating with family? By destroying the myspace page he's cut off the communication that you know about, but that won't necessarily stop him from establishing a new one/maintaining and existing one under the radar.
Don't go into his cell phone bills/history, his regular e-mail account or try to find a way to open his work e-mail. Chances are your gut's telling you you'll find something, and chances are great that your gut is right.
If asked, I'd tell you that you're going to have to sit him down and tell him that this isn't okay, even if he thinks its no big deal. He needs to figure out what's important to him, and where you fit in in all that.
2007-12-14 10:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by bla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be worried that he was talking to her on there. You probably feel bad because you made the account for him. Just set down and talk to him about it! Make sure to be straight up with him and tell him that you don't want him talking to her because you know his history with her, and you know what they say about history; it repeats itself and I am sure you don't want that to happen so stop him in his tracks, well, before any tracks are made really. Just stay calm and tell him exactly how you feel. If he did not include you on his page or tell her about you, there is something fishy to me there. You are married and if he loves you then you have nothing to worry about. But I would dig into this a little more just so you don't get your heart broken. Figure this out girl. Tell him how you feel and make sure you guys are on the same page. By deleting the page he is avoiding this whole confrontation which may mean that he is hiding something... Good luck.
2007-12-14 09:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You created this situation by not thinking through the consequences of what you were about to do so now deal with it , if you needed a venue for distant family to see it would have been better for him or them to either pick up the phone and call or email them photos . You expect him to tell you he is corresponding with an ex girlfriend ? , you wonder why he deleted the whole account when confronted ? . He is involved not necessarily with his ex but it could be anyone now , but trust me he is still relating to someone that is why he was so quick to remove "that " myspace account .
2007-12-14 09:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want history to repeat itself, then you need to have open, honest communication with him. That is the bad thing about all these 'great' ways to get in touch with old friends. It opens old doors that might have never been opened or even knocked on before. This life is filled with many temptations, and maybe he was just talking with her, but started having nostalgia. Maybe he felt guilty for even responding to her, so when you busted him, he automatically closed it down and has no intention of walking down that road again. Who knows?! Whatever is going on needs to be dealt with. If you really want your marriage to work, you need to nip this in the bud. Good Luck!
2007-12-14 10:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by TKA0427 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of 2 things is happening; either it's no big deal, as he says, and deleted the page to avoid further arguments. Guys will chop off a foot if it gets them out of an argument.
Or he did rekindle with his ex gf and feels guilty. Either way, there probably is nothing physical going on right now.
But you need as a wife, and this will be hard because you're probably hurt, to get closer to him and try to bond more. Not to keep an eye on him but to show that your relationship is very important to you.
Hope this helps.
2007-12-14 09:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by Cat * 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Husband and i fight over myspace all the time. It just seems like it is causing a lot of havok in alot of married couples lives!!! At least he deleted his account, but if he deleted it you may want to check to see if he made another account. I am so sorry to hear about this.. i totally understand.
2007-12-14 09:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl this is not innocent. Especially if he deleted right away. What a jackass to think your so dumb and to do what he is doing. Let him know that if you find he's talking to her again you are threw with him. If he loves you he will end all contact with her out of respect for you. If he continues to write her or talk to her leave him. I know it's esier said then done but what's the point of continuing to be with a man if you can't trust him.
Good luck sweetie, i feel for you.
2007-12-14 09:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
:( This is what I hate about MySpace that people just put their personal lives out on the internet. K, try talking to him again. Show that you are truly concerned that you will have a divorce or something. I hope you get it worked out.
2007-12-14 09:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The internet is often a meeting place to fulfill fantasies without having the problems of "face-to-face" encounters. Either you trust him, or you don't. After all, you can't carry on a clandestine relationship via mail. It's a venting mechanism, no more than that. Relax! He's still with you.
2007-12-14 09:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by bjstree 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would he change with you? Are you better than his last wife? He already open the door with his old gf. Myspace, Phone, Email..etc he's going to still talk to her..
2007-12-14 09:59:02 · answer #11 · answered by doug_frsh3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋