or is it just being self absorbed. the reason I ask is because I decided to take $100 out of my christmas this year and buy gifts for 2 of my friends who can't celebrate due to financial problems. I just called my dad to ask him to see if it was ok and he said he was very very proud of me and I could tell by his voice that he truly was and after I got off the phone I started to cry a little bit...now I feel really really self absorbed, and I wasn't crying because I was giving up my money...I could care less about money so i think i was just proud of myself? do you think that is self absorbed?
2007-12-14 09:42:45 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
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2007-12-14 09:45:46 · update #1
uhh TTC, I am doing it out of kindness not and not for attention, the only reason I asked my dad was because he is the one buying me stuff because im only 14, the only reason I asked this question was because I dont know why im crying (no its not pms thank you very much)
2007-12-14 09:54:39 · update #2
Kool K, I don't expect anything back, my friends and I are very loving twoards eachother and I'm probably closer to these ppl even more then I am to my own brother...come to think of it...I actually am and my brother raised me most of my life...so that means a lot...I appreciate the compliments from everyone and dont give someone a thumbs down if they werent being "nice", I asked for an opinion and I'm willing to take any opinion anyone wants to give me, good, or bad, its what i asked for
2007-12-14 09:59:41 · update #3
ok Hello, My dad is a work-a-holic and struggles to pay our rent every month and I wear clothing from wal *mart. So no im not a "Paris Hilton" girl, Christmas is actually the only time of the year I get anything but my nessecities to living. I dont own a cell phone, I dont own an ipod, I dont own a 4 wheller (i live in the middle of nowhere), the only animal I own is a cat, my computer was for christmas last year. so trust me when I say that I am not a spoiled person. Ive lived in a motel before, no, I'm not spoiled.
2007-12-14 10:03:39 · update #4
Its normal of course, i sometimes decide to give a few cents to the needy, it makes me all happy inside, i then work harder, i raised $10,000 for katrina victims... that was a rush.
2007-12-14 09:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by DrXedusa 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not self-absorbed, and it doesn't sound like the "pride" feeling came from the gifting. It came from the fact that your dad was complimentary. I think you must have a very close relationship with your dad, or you really want his approval, and his compliment meant a lot to you. Do you look up to your father?
So, no, Maybe a little sentimental, but not self absorbed. You actually sound like a pretty nice person, but you need to relax a little about trying to be perfect.
2007-12-14 09:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by the hump 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your dad was emotional because he worked so hard to raise you as best as he could and now he sees it paying off in that you are so kind to your friends. Maybe you were crying partly because you feel good that your friends will get a nice christmas and not just because you were proud of yourself? It's not self absorbed to be proud of yourself either - and even if it is it doesn't really matter because you still did a good thing and being proud doesn't change that.
2007-12-14 09:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are definatley not self absorbed. the only way you would be ..is if u expected something in return from your 2 friends...that is being self absorbed. this shows you are growing up and maturing and starting to see that christmas is more about giving than getting. it comes with age and maturity. but because you knew your dad was very proud of you ..that reasured you that you can be proud of yourself too which was an overwhelming feeling.
good job u sound like a very caring person!!
2007-12-14 09:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by kool k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not self absorbed. If that was the case you would have spent the money on yourself. What a nice thing to do for you friends. No shame in feeling good for doing good. Merry Christmas!
2007-12-14 09:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
U were crying because u were giving out of the kindness of your heart, which can b an AMAZING feeling!!! I dont think u were crying because u were proud of urself or self absorbed...U were crying because u were glad to do something good and make a difference...that was very nice of u!
2007-12-14 09:47:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you feel that good about doing something for other people who are less fortunate that's definitely a good thing. You're obviously not self-absorbed because
1. You're giving your own money to others because they need it more than you
2. you're worried that you are being self-absorbed.
A lot of people cry because they are really happy, or relieved, or even because they are proud. Think of the mother who watches her child graduate...they always cry because they are proud of their son/daughter so why can't you cry when you're proud of yourself.
Don't be worried about it, you should be proud of yourself!
2007-12-14 09:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you cry over something like that,in my eyes you can't do many good deeds that often.
So yeah,you are like Paris Hilton self obsessed and can't get over you would do something so nice for once.
Okay no need to stalk me just because I offended you.
Gosh don't take it so personally,I didn't mean you were spoilt I'm just saying I believe crying was 'dramtic' and a bit vain considering some people who have nothing donate loads to charity and are still humble.So don't go calling me dramtic.
Oh so now you've gone and sent your friend after me aswell?
Well your both been reported for harrassment.
2007-12-14 09:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
uhm, well it is ok; to be proud of yourself. i mean i think you did a good thing for other people. however, you might have started to cry because you might have felt sorry or bad for the people that couldn't celebrate Christmas due to financial problems. well, i don't think you are self-absorbed. you did a good thing and you should know that. and i hope your friends enjoy their Christmas and you, too. =]
2007-12-14 09:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by puja p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no your not self absorbed. lol and wondering if u are self absorbed and worrying about it means ur not absorbed :) if u were self absorbed you would be giving your friends money because you had to. the fact that you WANTED to give them money to help them out since they are having some problems is very genereous and thoughtful! good for you :) and besides, they were tears of joy becuz u helped someone out and you feel good about yourself! if someone else says that u are self-absorbed dont listen to em. :) and merry christmas =)
2007-12-14 09:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by ♥K2 bby K2♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way you put this question does sound selfish but after readin it you are not! Your dad should be proud of you and no dont worry about being self absorbed, if you were, you wouldnt even realise it
2007-12-14 09:46:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋