Am I the only man that wants to save sex for marriage ?

Question

I'm 18 and obviously never had sex before, I've put a lot of though into it, and think it would be best to save that special moment for marriage ?

Are there any other guys here that agree with me ?

No I'm not religious nor am I crazy, I'm just stating my opinion...

Girls what would you think of a man wanting to save sex before marriage ? Would you marry a virgin ?

Best Regards

Jordan

Answer 1

Jordan! Good for you! There are plenty of girls out there who want to save sex for marriage. Sex complicates relationships and often clouds judgment. Good for you to save it for someone special.

Answer 2

OK first of all, you are not the only guy out there saving sex for marriage. I have a friend that is 22 and he's waiting. To tell you the truth, I think it's a very noble thing to do. Don't settle for just anyone because sex is a big deal. There are a lot of emotions tied...as cliche as it sounds, there are. I didn't wait, but I still keep in touch with my first. I think that person needs to be someone you care about or it will be a waste.

Now, would I marry a virgin? Probably not because I don't think it would be fair. But that's just me. Find a girl who shares the same thoughts about it as you do. Then there is no need to worry. Good luck my friend and happy holidays!

Answer 3

It's a nice little fantasy, but it will do more to torment you than benefit you in life. Let's say you succeed at this goal. You don't get married until you're 24-26. That's a lot of prime years of no sex. You'll end up years deep into a marriage with a wife who is upset because you cannot last longer than 2 minutes in bed. Or perhaps you luck out and find a woman to marry within the next 18 months. You both are too young and inexperienced with relationships to be able to dedicate yourselves to a lifelong commitment. True, it has worked for a few people, more in the past of course. But for the most part, it simply isn't practical. So you get divorced. You are then left wondering why you waited. And finally, there is the most likely outcome where your natural instincts and desires overcome your willpower to abstain. You end up having sex, a few times of course. Just like a can of pringles, once you pop you can't stop. So you give yourself more and more guilt each time you have sex. Why on earth would any sane human set themselves up to feel guilty and ashamed for something that is both natural and healthy?

Here's the good part. If you're not ready, you don't have to do it. Please do not interpret my little speech as a "get out there and F like a rabbit". Waiting for sex is something you do to be responsible. It is not a good idea to do it for religious or mystical reasons. I know you said it wasn't religious for you, however you might not be considering one thing: what is practical. You very well could run off a wonderful woman by neglecting her needs. In that same regard you could run off a good woman by pressuring her into something she is not ready for. I suggest figuring out what is best for the situation and going from there. And by all means, use protection.

Answer 4

If I found out a man was "saving himself" for marriage, I would quickly run the other way. I don't take sex too seriously, and I would never marry a person who thinks it's some huge big deal. Sex is a natural thing, a normal aspect of a healthy romantic relationship - not something to either hide from or be obsessed about. There's nothing wrong with holding a different opinion - I just wouldn't want to be with a person whose feelings on the matter were that drastically different from mine. Before I decide to marry someone, I need to connect to them on several different levels - including, but not limited to, on the sexual level. It's just one piece of the very complex puzzle - it doesn't make the whole puzzle, but the overall picture would be incomplete without it.

Answer 5

First off Ignore Mindless, he's dumb .. that right there is the reason for the divorce rate ..

I would say you are smart and stay that strong when women/girls try to just sleep with you so you can't say you are a virgin anymore .. sad but they are out there ..

My son is also 18 and a virgin .. popular .. dark .. cute .. and my goodness girls throw themselves at him!

My girls are as well, younger, but still are ..

YES save yourself, it will be tough .. but worth it ..

Good Man.

Answer 6

I think that it is admirable for either a man or a woman to want to save themselves for marriage.

My husband and I waited until we were married, and have never regretted it for one moment and it is many years later.

You have a Merry Christmas.

Answer 7

Man are you going to be disappointed!

Married women are the worst to have sex with unless they are cheating with you...

I have known hundreds of couples and every last one of them were animals and good in bed until they got married and then they were lousy lovers... selfish, inattentive, lacked passion and drive... made the man do all the work... the list goes on...

if you don't believe me... ask around... ask any guy who has been married for more than 5 years and he will tell you the best sex was WAY before he got married...

I do commend you and you are doing the right thing... too bad women punish men for doing the right thing.

Answer 8

I am trying to figure out why a woman would want to marry a man that didn't know how to perform in bed. I wouldn't want a woman that didn't know what to do in bed. And, if she was a virgin, I would want her even less. You may be in for some disappointment when this plan does not yield the results you hope for.

Answer 9

I agree too that you may change your mind into your 20's. And that's okay too. You've got a wonderful moral foundation and that's what matters most! Thank your parents for obviously raising a gentleman!

Answer 10

Not the only man, but one of very few.