I know someone who molested a child about 30 years ago and he has never been convicted or accused or anything. The victim in the situation is the step-child of the molestor. My problem is that the victim allows her daughter to be around her step-father and know him as her grandfather. The little girl is 8 and her father is my boyfriend. We don't want her around that man at all, but the lawyer said that unless her mother stands up and does something, we have no proof, and nothing will be done. Is there websites or something where we can post his name or picture to let the world know to stay away from this man? This is making us sick because child molestors are always repeat offeders. They don't stop with one child. Any advice is appreciated!
2007-12-14 08:31:43 · 17 answers · asked by katie 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
We have no control over keeping the child away from him! That is the problem here!
2007-12-14 08:46:58 · update #1
We know this because back when my boyfriend dated his daughters mother, she told him. The messed up thing is that her own mother knew it was happening, and did nothing, and is still married to him. I cannot express my feelings strongly enough over this.I just feel I don't want to take any cances by having this little girl around him, but what can I do?
2007-12-14 08:54:34 · update #2
The victim and her mother have an odd relationship, I think thats why she hasn't done anything. I mean, her own mother knew and did nothing, so I think it messed her up in the head. Her mother is very controlling and manipulative.
2007-12-14 08:57:20 · update #3
Of course he is not welcome in our home! But the child's primary residence is with her mother, and she allows her to go over there! I know its messed up, but that is whats going on.
2007-12-14 08:59:53 · update #4
Statute of Limitations has LONG expired.
What your boyfriend CAN do is bring this up in a custody hearing and ask to have "keep her away from her step-grandfather" made a condition of custody.
Be SURE that the victim will confirm this though, or you can expect a libel lawsuit from him.
Richard
2007-12-14 09:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by rickinnocal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point you have nothing to prove that he is child molester. All you have is assumption and accusation. Now if the mother knows he is molesting the child then she should report it by calling the police or the Child Abuse Hotline. Otherwise, you can not poster his photo on any websites, because he has not been convicted of a crime. Just make sure that you keep the 8 yr old away from him if you and your boyfriend are uncomfortable in having the child around him. Never leave the child alone with that person, no matter how short the time you will be away from the child. Where you go, the child go. If you can not go because you can not find a babysitter and he is the only person available, then you just don't go; but whatever you do, DO NOT LEAVE THE CHILD ALONE WITH THAT PERSON!!!! Much less, let him in your home. He is not welcome, plain and simply.
2007-12-14 08:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by Tekla M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last thing you want to do is post slanderous info about him on the internet. He's not convicted therefore in the eyes of the law he's not a child molestor. How do you know for sure he is if the supposed victim won't step up to say he is?
All you can do is try to keep the girl away from him, plus I would sit her down and have a serious talk with her about what to do if any pervert ever tries to touch her innapropriately. Maybe if you confront the guy he will be too scared to try anything with her because he'll know he's being watched.
2007-12-14 08:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is to teach the child to not be afraid to let you know if the man touches her. Tell the child to not be afraid to stand up to the man either. I think only God can help you on this one. I know it hurts not being able to do anything about it and the police don't want to get involved. It's just a shame that so many child molesters live to even see thirty more years they should be dead as soon as they touch or harm a child. How can the mother let her daughter be around the guy she must don't care.
2007-12-14 08:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NOTHING you can do if the victim does not testify. Do NOT post anything anywhere as you will have a defamation / libel suit on you quickly!
The only thing you and your boyfriend can do is to keep a close eye on the girl and make sure she doesn't get abused. Unfortunately, the law gives remedy after something is done, not preemptive strike. In the event you do discover abuse, go back to petition the Probate and Family court that ruled on the custody issue to revoke her custodial right. Make sure you have solid proof before you go back!
2007-12-14 08:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Andy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has never been tried or convicted of being a child molestor, then he is deemed innocent of anything like that. I am sorry, but think your hands are tied.
Perhaps if the boyfriend talks with the mother to remind her what happened to her when she was little, that might make a difference, but other than that, I don't think anything can be done.
Sorry.
2007-12-14 08:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now he is not even officially an accused child molester. With out a victim, there is nothing that can be done. if you post information about him alleging sex crimes that you can not prove he could sue you for liable. Your lawyer is correct.
The only way is to convince the mother of why it is a bad idea to leave the child unattended with him.
2007-12-14 08:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you post a picture or a name and have absolutely no proof and you are the one who will pay. how do you know this man was a molester? if you have any kind of proof then present it to the courts. he probably can not be charged with anything now but if you have proof you can prevent him from being alone with your boyfriends daughter. since you state you have no proof then you need to convince her mother that the girl needs protection. good luck and i hope you are wrong about this because yours options are limited and if true the risk are many.
2007-12-14 08:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by michr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The statue of limitations I am sure has run out on thi, the 30 year old act that is.
If he does anything to the child now just simply turn him in. but do so because you have PROVE and not just a hunch. This sort of thing can ruin a persons life if only to find out its false. so be sure before you bring something this serious to the table.
2007-12-14 08:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by Slick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom is in denial or stupid try to get her too go to the police and for goodness sake stop allowing the 8 year old to be around the accused.
2007-12-14 08:37:16 · answer #10 · answered by joyce s 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋