Im 18 almost 19, im in college, im in between jobs and I don’t pay any of my bills except for my cell phone and gas in my car. I rarely hang out with my friends because I am concentrating on school, never done drugs (I do not intend to either), and I rarely drink and my curfew is usually between 12-1230 depending who im with. I just met this guy about three days ago and I haven’t told my parents about him, I cant tell my brother because he’ll tell my parents and I don’t want to, however I can’t cover this guy for eternity. When I go somewhere by myself my parents think im acting strange and want to know if that’s really where im going. They are the type of parents that I feel would follow me just to make sure that’s where im going so I don’t think I can see this guy anymore, I want to be my own independent self that doesn’t have to tell mommy and daddy who I am hanging out with. I know I have to start paying my bills and take responsibility on that end but still im young and I want to live life and not by secrets. When I was in high school I never stayed out late, never snuck out of the house, I always called to tell them when I was going somewhere or when I left one friends house to go to another friends house (I still do that) i always do what they tell me to and when they tell me to do it. Should I be rebellious?
2007-12-14 08:08:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
NO wow your a real behaved kid. What did you parents do to get you like that? I wish my teenagers were like you. I don't trust them at all. Just go by there rules as long as you live in their house you have to abide by their rules. Why can't you have a boyfriend? Your old enough to tell your parents you have a boyfriend. They can't say nothing. Tell your parents to let the leash go a bit and that you feel that you can behave as an adult and not to worry about you anymore. Good luck!
2007-12-14 08:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
When I was in college I still had to tell my parents where I was going when I went somewhere, which was annoying but not the end of the world. I could pretty much do what I wanted, but just had to let them know so they wouldn't worry about me. I have recently graduated and moved back home while working, and they still prefer to know my whereabouts. I suggest rather than being rebellious, have a calm conversation with them in which you explain how you feel and what you think would be fair.
2007-12-14 09:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put up with it for a while and move out as soon as you can. Tell them about the guy, remember, you're 18, they can give you their opinion, and you should respect it and listen to it, but you are an adult and can make decisions for yourself. I see all these 18 year olds who still obey their parents like five year olds. Wake up! you don't have to do what they say anymore! You were a well behaved kid, you deserve your freedom. If the control things gets out of control move out, pay your own bills, you run your own life now.
2007-12-14 09:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be rebellious. You are an adult. Tell them that you have met a boy and bring him over to meet them. They cannot stop you from dating. They will try to control you as long as they can.Telling them where you are at I can understand. Monitoring who you are with and following you I cannot. You have never done anything to cause suspicion and you should not be treated as though you have. My 17 year old stays out later than that if we know where he is. Trust and respect is a two way street. Living in there house does not give them the right to tell you who you can date or hang out with. Telling you who can come into there house, alright if there is a reason other than trying to control you. It is time to sit them down and to have a talk.
2007-12-14 08:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're legal. Who cares what your parents try to do?
...No. Don't be "rebellious", now THAT'S acting like a fifteen-year old, honey.
Speak to them face to face LIKE AN ADULT.
2007-12-14 11:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by lonelioness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your lucky...im 20 and my parents are already calling me to get back home at 9 lol..talk about overprotective...and well i do have a boyfriend who they let come over and they let me come over so yeah lol
2007-12-14 08:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by MisSy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your almost nineteen, stop calling home & move out when your school year ends.
2007-12-14 08:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by jackie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋