His ex gf is still and will always be in love with him. While we were going out she would always make comments to him on how her mom wanted her to break up with me and go out with him. Finally my final straw with him and her was when she tried to kiss him at a party. I told him to make a decision between me and her because i was not going to deal with the stress she was bringing upon me. He chose me without a doubt and stopped talking to her. she occasionally still texts him now and then but he never sees her. today i hear him her and a few other friends from highschool (they went to the same highschool by the way) are going out for his birthday and I'm not invited. I am so pissed. not because i dont trust him but because everytime shes around him i think about how bad i wanna hurt her for trying to come in between our relationship. am i wrong? just please help me.
2007-12-14 08:07:47 · 14 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would be a little suspicious of why I wasn't invited. But, if you trust your bf, then there really is nothing to worry about with her. If your bf truly does want to be with you and only you, then she can try to do whatever she wants, but it'll be a waste of time because he wants to be with you. Only your bf can break you two up not her. She can try, but it would still be your bf's decision to do anything with her. I'm not saying that I wouldn't be angry at her....I would. But, again, she can't MAKE him break up with you....only he can do that.
2007-12-14 08:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not invited but the ex is? this doesn't sound okay to me. if it's his party, then why can't he invite you? if my man didn't insist that i come along too, i would know something is up. i'd tell him you're going (you trust him, but what if he gets drunk & she tries to take advantage of him?). if he doesn't agree, then point out how fishy he's acting by insisting that you not go along while he hangs out with his ex. if he goes without you anyway, well....this would be a dealbreaker for me.....
2007-12-14 16:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by Heather Honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's trying to keep his options open so maybe you should too. You should NEVER invite someone that you know that's in a relationship and not the other!
2007-12-14 16:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by fwalker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have a talk to him, tell him where you stand. tell him if he goes to this party with out you. you will stay with out him. that if any time something like that happens, it is up to him! to set her straight. if not then, you will see it as if he does not care for you, and he does care for her. so he needs to chose and she still texts him. ask him why? this too, is something he needs to decide on. for him to break all ties with her. or just stay with her. because it is not worth all the hassle. this should start him thinking.
2007-12-15 00:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him - if it's his birthday (a special occasion) he should want to spend it with you as well as his friends. In this situation he can have his cake and eat it too but if the ex is involved he ain't worth it!
2007-12-14 16:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by PS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were in your shoes. i would smack the S H I T out of that girl then break up with him. if he really wanted to be with you then he would put a stop to that girl getting in touch wit him. try it and if he comes back then maybe it was meant to be and if he doesnt let it go and move on to the next. You shouldnt have to put up with any of this drama
2007-12-14 16:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by Rita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got mad because you weren't invited to his birthday excursion with his friends from high school? You need to give him some space, you don't have to do every single thing together. But if you don't trust him, then you need to chuck him.
2007-12-14 16:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by la-la-lauren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you definitely are not wrong i would invite your self to go with them or just show up is a better idea tell this girl that she can't have your man stand your ground girl and let her know that you are not going anywhere so she can just move
2007-12-14 16:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by mommy101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why your still calling him your boyfriend. Call one of your guy friends up and go out with him on the boyfriends birthday. You'll either be rid of him or he'll straighten up. Win/Win for you.
2007-12-14 16:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by whatsnext_13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why aren't you invited?
no you're not wrong, i would be pissed too
that's not right, either talk to him about it, dump him, or go down to his level and go out with a guy that he does not like.
either way make sure he knows you're not happy about it,
2007-12-14 16:12:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋