do you ever sotp loving an ex if they're rotton to you
2007-12-14 07:59:03 · 14 answers · asked by tip 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my experience... I have a special place in my heart for every person I have ever loved. Even the ones that ended badly. I still care about them, and to a point still love them. Not in a romantic way though. I would never consider leaving my partner to go back to an ex. But with each person, I shared my life with. Its kinda hard to x all feelings for someone you shared your entire life with. Again, I dont have romantic feelings for them, but I do care, I think about them, and most of them I try to keep in contact with atleast every once in a while.
2007-12-14 08:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you define "love". It's possible to break up with someone and still have a good relationship for many years to come; it's also possible to move on and forget all about them, never missing them one bit. Either way, once the acute stage of a break-up is over, the "love" you once had for each other will morph into something different - could be friendship, or maybe indifference. If you can't get over the other person after a good length of time, something is wrong.
2007-12-14 08:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it depends on how long you two were together. Especially if there is kids involved then you will have to deal with him in the future, I was married 18 years it would of been 20 next year, I dated him for almost 6 years. Even thought he has cheated on me and I have tried to make it or more then one, a part of me still loves him and it will probably will eventually fade with time.
2007-12-14 08:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my ex for 7 yrs and I was head over heels for him. I'm now married with a 1 yr old to another man. I will always hold my ex dear to my heart. He was my best friend for many years before we evetually dated. We just shared a good portion of our lives together so it's not like my memories with him will just disappear the minute I meet another man.
I love my husband very much and he is my world. But I see no harm in holding a piece of my heart for my ex. To me, it's just another chapter to my book. And when we broke up, that chapter of my life with him ended. But the memories are still there. And since, I've moved on and started a whole new book with my husband and kids...
2007-12-14 08:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by Momto2inFL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer here is to forgive yourself for allowing him to be rotten to you. Really sit down and think about what I just said. Right now you can't forgive him and want to fix how the relationship went. If you can find a way to learn from your mistake and forgive yourself you can walk away feeling pretty good. When one door closes another one opens. Don't miss the open door(s) because you are looking backward!
2007-12-14 08:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by ADC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a little piece of that love always remains. However, it grows dimmer with time. There might be a time when you have a new man who is mean to you once, and then you tend to glorify the actions of your ex sometimes. "Well, he wasn't THAT bad!" You'll ask yourself why it is that you broke up with him in the first place. This is very normal.
2007-12-14 08:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you were in love. If you were really in love I do not think those feelings ever go away but they will fade and you will fall out of love with your ex.
You will always think fondly of them and they will always hold a special place in your heart but it does not mean you want to be with them anymore.
I think if you can say you no longer love them ... then you were never really in love to begin with!
2007-12-14 11:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Stephmeister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must. It'll hurt like heck, but you must stop thinking about this person. Besides, what is the point of breaking up if you continue to let them make you miserable? Will it be easy to stop yourself from the "woulda-shoulda-coulda's"?? No. But you will stop yourself from ever moving forward.
Just remember..The Best Revenge is Living Well.
2007-12-14 08:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by HerTiger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love the person they were - not the one they have become. A part of me will always love my ex husband - the man I married. I do not know him now.
2007-12-14 08:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe they will always have a place in your heart.Their is a difference in loving someone,and still being in love with them
2007-12-14 08:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋