Please help me. I`m trying to get back my dad's trust in me. At the same time, I feel like I`m dying inside!

Question

Hi. I am 16 and I will admit I have a pretty cool dad. He has always been there and even allowed me to have my 1st real boyfriend. I totally wrecked that oppoutunity because I was so impulsive in my relationship and things went way too fast. Plus after me and this boy broke up, I went through tough withdrawal period in which i started straying away from my academics and started being really tardy. But eventually, I picked myself up and i`m on a better path.
Now my problem is that,my dad is like a hawk! I cant do anything really. I got a cell phone and i dont want him to be suspicious but i do want to have male friends. I`m just worried I might lose his trust again and it will get even worser. What tips can you give me make sure I dont lose his trust,escpicially with boys. I dont want to get in a relationship because I am too scared. Shouldnt I just spend my teenage years focusing on myself, no matter how right the next boy might be. What if I lose out on a really good guy.

Answer 1

if i were you i would focus on being yourself! your dad needs to no what your like as a person no matter what right?? However it's trust that's the main issue here between you both so if you did happen to meet the 'right' guy, take things slowly and focus on this guy and slowly introduce him to your dad, show him that you've changed, do whatever it takes!
I myself went trough this stage many years ago and my dad was exactly the same as yours and theres nothing worse than upsetting your dad! I aint gunna say it's easy but you'll no what i mean when the 'right' guy comes along and all you wanna do is make sure that your dad approves, i swear it will all come naturally to you hun!
Good luck

Answer 2

It's very mature of you to admit your impulsivity and accept the blame here. Good for you.

Now that you're back on the right path, and since your Dad is watching you like a hawk, he will notice. You will eventually earn his trust back. If you have male friends, talk to them while your Dad is in the same room and he will have no question that you're up to no good.

If you don't feel you can control your impulses, then yes, avoid another relationship. Lack of self control is a good way to screw up the rest of your life.

You may miss out a bit of dangerous fun, but the chances of meeting your partner for life at 16 is .001%. Focus on the stuff that will make the rest of your life awesome even though it's not fun now (like grades) and not the stuff that's fun now but could make the rest of your life hell on earth (fooling around with boys).

Answer 3

Dads will always be very protective of their daughters. Bottom line. Always suspicious of potential bf or just guys in general. You're way too young to be thinking of missing out on "a really great guy". Really you are. You have many years to learn, grow and mature. Don't be in such a rush. If your dad has always been good to you, he will remain that way for the most part. I think you are just a bit too paranoid. Enjoy your teen years because they go FAST and don't forget your education too. That should always come first. Eventually you will also learn to balance a relationship, education and many, many more roles and things.

Answer 4

Yes' spend your teenage years focusing on yourself, and get threw school and make things right in your life. do not worry, there is no rush in finding a boyfriend. you need to spend time with your Dad. and be truthful with him. tell him you have friends that are boys but your do not go out with them, they are only friends. you will find, if you are truthful with him. he will notice this. and will come more to trust you. besides you are 16, this is when you need to get threw school and make something for yourself. there will be plenty of time to find a boyfriend. also if you wait, until you are at least 19 you will then understand that guys will not be as crazy as they are at a young age. also you will have a better chance in finding one that you can trust. when you do, let your Dad meet him. that will start things off right. plus your Dad will come to like and know him. you will then feel a lot better about yourself and your Dad.

Answer 5

As a father that lost his only daughter>Be patient with him> He only want the best for you>Your trust was broken and will take time to regain>we wasn't borne a parent's or taught we make mistakes also > So give him the trust he deserves> Boys are only wanting 1 thing>So be safe>O yea we know every trick in the book as we help to wright it>In the end old age and treachery will out whit youth and vigor>

Answer 6

Your dad cares for you deeply,its only natural he would want to keep a eye on you.It may take a while but you just have to win his trust back,be in when he says,show him you are concentrating on your studies,don't be secretive during phone calls try and talk in front of him.eventually he will see you are on the right track and ease up and things will get better.tell him you realised your mistake and are trying really hard now,this will make him feel so much better and he will realise you trust him.Don't give up on boys just take things slowly and don't get too involved and get a right balance between studying and going out.best of luck.x

Answer 7

First of all, don't have sex again until you are married. You will make your dad VERY happy on that end. Secondly, you are only 16. You will have dated several guys before you wind up with the one you marry.