My boyfriend and I have been together for two year and prior to that we were great friends. He has express to me numerous times that he wants to marry me. We never had any big or real problems. I found out in July that he was cheating on me with someone that lived far away from us. (1825 miles away)
When I found out I was hurt of course. I never told him right away that I knew he was cheating. I would drop hints to him that I felt something was going on. Finally one day I just could not take it and I tol him I knew everything. He finally confessed. He promised that it’ll never happen again and that he would never contact or see her again. I spoke with the women and she said she didn’t know about me and wanted nothing to do wit him. I want to know should I forgive him and stay with him or end what we have / had?
2007-12-14 07:25:25 · 13 answers · asked by satavia83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, it is simply your decision...all these people are doing is giving advice and opinions. talk to you BF and explain that before you go into a marriage that you have to be able to Trust him. And show him that doing this with this other woman has really broken that trust relationship. Then the next step is your decision. You can forgive him and try the relationship for a few months and see how it goes or you can break it off and see if you can live without him.
2007-12-14 07:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a BIG PROBLEM!!
Seriously if he is cheating now ... and you two are not married ... its not going to get better ... it's going to get worse! He is going to learn from this incident and figure out how to cover his tracks next time!!
You do not ever have to settle and staying with him is settling! You may feel like nothing big ever happened in your relationship but it has! He was lying to you about being faithful ... and who knows about what else!!
Get away from this guy while you still can ... and he is the idiot who is losing a good woman!!
2007-12-14 15:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by Stephmeister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run the other way now. My ex cheated on me for 4 months, I confronted him once I found all the evidence. I told him it was over and that was the end of that.
How could you ever trust him again? If you stay with him, you will always have that weird feeling in your stomach. I believe that once you're a cheater, you're mostly going to continue to cheat........
2007-12-14 20:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by kiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you can either forgive him and move on and live with it or you can choose to not forgive him and trust him and leave him. We can't tell you what to do because we aren't in that situation. If you can't move past his cheating then you need to move on to someone else. A lot of times once they cheat they will cheat again, but other times they won't. Good luck with whatever decision you make.
2007-12-14 15:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on.They say the same thing all the time."I'll never do it again."As good as it may sound, is it true? But when we're in a relationship, we take a risk of getting our heart broke.You can trust him with all your heart but if he wanna cheat, he's gonna do it regardless of what we do or say.That's something we can't control.
2007-12-14 15:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by sweetie23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thousand, eight hundred andtwenty five miles away? Wow. How'd he manage that?
And what is it with these people who insist on talking to 'the other woman/man'?
Your problem lies with him baby...not the other broad. As far as your question goes...only you can answer that. I personally don't love this guy so how can I tell you what I'd do? But, whatever you decide...good luck.
2007-12-14 15:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater." He cheated on you cause she lived far away and he thought he could get away with it. He'll surely do it again
2007-12-14 15:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by meeting in the aisle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a cheater....you aren't married to him...so I would cut my losses now....Yeah right he wants to marry you....and how does he express that desire? By cheating on you.....Run Run Run with the wind!!
2007-12-14 15:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking for myself
#1 forgive him it is more for you and your soul than him
#2 leave him
if he can't be faithful; in a dating relationship how is he going to act if you marry him?
2007-12-14 15:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him for your own mental health
AND
Leave him because you have made a poor choice in a man... um... boy
2007-12-14 15:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Mindlessfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋