I'm 37 and she's 22. With me so far?

Question

So I work with a sweet 22 year old woman who I've been having lunch with for about a year now. We talk almost every night over the phone, and I taken her out for dinner a few times.

I, like you, have always thought the age difference was too much.

But we are where we are now.

I think I have to proceed with this. I tried "not going there", but it's become virtually impossible at this point. She wants to get married, and other than age, I can't think of any other reason why we shouldn't.

If you want to knock some sense into me, now is your chance.

Answer 1

In my opinion, that's not that bad. Depends how you are aging. Do you look and feel 30 or 50?

If you're youngish looking and aging well, and your parents have good longevity and health in old age, you are probably doing nothing wrong in this case.

The only time age is a problem is when one person gets old and fragile and the younger one has to take care of that person, giving up their own life. That's unfair.

Answer 2

I myself am 22 yrs younger than my husband, so your 15 yrs difference doesn't mean a thing NECESSARILY. However, I was quite a bit older than your gf when we met, and had been supporting myself (and 2 dead beat husbands) for the last 8 years, so had a pretty good grip on the real world. Our mental and emotional mind sets are close, we hold the same beliefs and values and goals. So in this case, age was just a number. It's the mental age that matters more than physical, and what each person's motivation is for desiring the other.

I can remember being 22....I have changed so much since then, and I haven't even reached 37 yet. I had no idea what love was...are you sure you even love each other? Compared to where people are by 30, 22 is still very immature. This could quite easily lead to growing apart thru no one's fault but time.

There's nothing wrong with what you're doing, but I would very much advise waiting, or a trial living together if you believe in it. If it's for real it will last. But her pushing after only one year of what sounds like not overly intense dating to get married, to me, is an indicator of, let's say, a higher level of maturity yet to come for her.

Act in haste, repent in leisure.

Answer 3

As long as you can see the perils of this situation - the fact you are older than her and that when she's in her prime you may not be able to keep her satisfied, for example- or that she is too young to really know what she wants, then I guess it's OK.
Marriage is a serious thing; yet even the most seemingly well-matched couples end up divorcing..while other relationships that were seen as not having much of a chance actually thrive.
Good luck...Take your time and think it over.

Answer 4

I was in a similur situation a couple years back, I was 35 she was 22 and we did the same thing. We went to lunch EVERY day for over a year. She was totally beautiful and personality wise the perfect person. We just "fit" and I battled with the age thing and so did she but we went for it. We began to date and it was great but she got an offer in another state and took it and moved. I have to stay where I am at because of my kids and I have no regrets for that nor the relationship we had/have, we are still the best of friends.

so get over the age and if it feels right go for it!

Answer 5

Age is nothing more than a number ... some mature faster and some never do!

If you two are on the same wave length ... you get along ... you can hold conversations with each other ... you love her and it is right ... don't fight it!!

You can not walk from something that is right because of something like age ... and honestly your age difference is not that much compared to others!

Answer 6

Look at yourself and your health. If you are healthy and your family has relatively long lifetimes, then the 15 year difference does not matter.
Alternatively, discuss the issue with her. How will life be when you are 60 and she is 45? If both of you get to a practical answer which both of you agree, then MARRY.

Answer 7

It is hard to put an age on love? I know many people get queasy when seeing someone date older people but sometimes you meet someone and something clicks. You are physically/emotionally drawn to someone. Like you said, you tried to NOT let it go there, but nature took it's course. If you are unsure about marriage right now talk about the options of living together...see how your daily lives intervene under one roof. If you want children later in life, be thankful men can produce longer than women. You're in Love...Live Life to the Fullest (the good and the bad)


Best Wishes to You and Happy Holidays

Answer 8

I can't see any reason why you shouldn't. I met my husband when I was 18, he was 28. We got married when I was 22. Here we are almost 14 years later still happy, still married. Age has never been an issue. Most people don't know there is a 10 year age difference unless we tell them.

Answer 9

were talking about 15 years
well my husband is 9 years older than me
and I love it
age has nothing to do with love {over the age of 18 of course}
but maturity does
I went through alot of changes since I was 22
now I am 32 so we all grow and just to make sure

get grounded in a good bible believing church
and go to some pre marriage classes

Answer 10

Look you shouldn't be going on age here. You both are adults here. I say go for it if you feel you two are compatible. You will never know unless you try. I wish you the best and don't let other dictate what is wrong and right for you. You make your own decisions.

Besides women your age come with a lot of baggage and often a whole sleugh of kids. You don't want that. Start out fresh.