Why do people insist on telling other people how to live their lives? I mean u can give someone ur opinion and they can take it if they want but if they don't why do some people keep pushing the issue?
Say their making a mistake on who their dating, don't u think it's their mistake to make? Would u stop talking to someone becuz YOU thought they were making a mistake, or would u stick by them regardless of their decision?
I'm not talking like people on here asking questions and answering, I'm talking more on the lines of family and friends.
2007-12-14 06:45:48 · 13 answers · asked by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh I understand giving ur opinion but if they don't wanna take it let them be cuz all ur doing is making them hate u by pushing it, u know what I mean?
2007-12-14 06:52:37 · update #1
Hahaha I'm not messing w/ noones husband, funny though but no.
2007-12-14 06:55:14 · update #2
I'm talking adults not minors, an adult is to make their own decision noone should make it for them.
2007-12-14 06:58:38 · update #3
You never know. It may be a hint of jealousy. They are wishing that they had what you have found. They are so trapped and consumed by the disappointments in their own lives that they can't see the newfound life in yours. If this is the case, then tell them to sign onto answers. I hear the best guys are found here.
2007-12-14 07:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a confusion about where the line between opinion and pushing is at.
Family and friends think they are being helpful but they are not you are right. To some extent it starts to make you upset! You feel like exploding because they keep pushing and pushing and pushing!!! They forget that you have a life to live and if you make a mistake you will learn from it ... not them!!!
All we can do is continue to tell them to back off!
2007-12-14 14:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by Stephmeister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they do it out of a misguided way of loving and caring. I never understood fully until I had kids. You want to protect your loved one and save them the pain you know they will feel if they continue doing what they are. It is as simple as that. No, no one should quit talking or being there over issues like this, but sometimes it is hard to watch and remain silent.
2007-12-14 14:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...what you do is your own business. I have people who solicit advice....ignore it and then cry the blues because they didn't follow through on it. Hey...no skin off my nose. Advice is free and yours to take or leave.
My real problem is with people...like my sister...who used to call, ask an opinion and then say.."But don't you think that....?" and toss out what SHE wanted to hear and to go with. She was only looking for someone to validate her desires. Then if it went to hell these type of people are the ones who come back and point a finger at you for their failure.
2007-12-14 14:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If someone asks for my honest opinion, I give it.....ONCE.
If they choose not to listen or take my brilliant advice, then I move on. I don't give them any more advice. They're looking for an outlet to VENT to, not to LISTEN to.
That's their decision and totally fine by me...I just don't want to waste my brainpower giving people advice who don't want to listen to it LOL.
If they get themselves into a huge problem by not taking my advice, I'd never go "Aha! See! I told you!". That's just not me. I'd help them as best I could get out of their situation, however, if they keep going back to making bad choices (my definition of bad choices) then I'd probably stop helping them, since it's obvious they don't want help.
It's not just the "answerer" who is to blame. It's the "questioner" too. Both need to know when to stop asking and answering.
Good luck
-kiki
2007-12-14 14:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people involved and the situation. When my daughter was 16 she had a boyfriend who stole cars and partied all night instead of going to school. I advised her that it was a mistake. Do you think I was meddling?
2007-12-14 14:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by Bruce M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People give unsolicited opinions because they care - it may not be something you want to hear,and it isn't' advice you have to take - but you have to understand the reason behind it - and appreciate the fact that you have people who truly are concerned with your welfare.
2007-12-14 14:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as the person making the mistake LEARNS from it.
2007-12-14 15:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by cooter726 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some folks are like that cause they are going against thier morales.. and it kills them..
They think it's so wrong, and cause you don't change, they can't stand to be around you anymore.
So why don't you leave that other woman's husband alone?!
2007-12-14 14:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by Latin G 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, its a families and Friends mission to help you and others its what we are here for.
2007-12-14 14:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋