I am uni at the moment. I have a girl in my year who envies me. She used to go to the same school and my earliest memory is of her being full of envy and only towards me. Its a shame I was only 15 years old at the time and being niave i didnt know it was truly envy. I thought that by showing her affection and love that she would learn that the world was okay and that she didnt have to be like that. However, now I look back and see that by doing that it only made her envy me even more. Shes in the same uni as me know, she hasnt really changed much and I know her main aim which is to ruin any goodness in my life. It did leave me a little depressed for a while. Ive changed my way of dealing with it now and I stay clear from her coz I know thats the best thing to do now. Though I still see her with her old traits. She needs help to deal with her problem as this is a deep level of envy (no exaggeration) and I dont really know what to do. I feel helpless in this situation. Any gd advice pls.
2007-12-14 06:45:07 · 5 answers · asked by Ki 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
he's right. there is nothing you can do about this.
to be hoest i just did something mean recently and i only now realised that is was, in some part, due to a huge amount of envy i had toward the person. i did something awful and it really hurt them and now i am stuck questioning my integrity as a human being. it's not even like its something relating only to me and the person in question. my best friend got dragged into it and now he is not talking to me cause he is so freaked out by me, i hid the envy for so long that when it came out it became a messy thing. and though the guy it affected has forgiven me, i cant forgive myself and it is killing me.
so wait, let her learn in her own time that the jealousy will kill her before it kills you. and that you, being the one to forgive her and brush it asid emakes you the better person.
she will feel small. like i do.
2007-12-14 07:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to effectively deal with being envied, you might try and read some psychology, something about what envy is about, or you might read the Bhagavad Gita, even if just to do something different, even if while waiting for the appearance of a new strategy in your mind.
You might decide to be transcendental about that envy, aloof, above and beyond. All the world needs help in one way or the other. And then a glowing pride and friendly style may belong to the fiercy. Then you might try and learn to become more fiercy, and then you no longer will feel helpless in a situation similar to the one you just have described.
2007-12-14 07:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by pasquale garonfolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah wow. See it somewhat is the humorous ingredient approximately being me. I envy no one as each and every guy or woman's existence has it somewhat is very own proportion of problems. and that i'm afraid that i'm no longer very materialistic. i'm undesirable as crap maximum appropriate now, yet i'm no longer offended, jealous or resentful of people who've greater effective than i do. nevertheless i will say there have been some human beings who I even have standard, that nevertheless they had greater financially than i did/do (OR had/have somewhat greater valuable circumstances over all) ... THEY have been very jealous of me by using fact i will do issues they won't be able to, (skills) i'm very incredibly, i'm properly-known, and have a greater valuable status with particular human beings than they had like that i did. yet that is affecting me none. Who the hell cares what they think of of me? solid or undesirable? Their critiques do no longer result my existence whatsoever. i think of jealousy is stupid and very infantile. It is likewise in actuality blatant lack of expertise, by using fact the certainty keeps to be that nevertheless a guy or woman's existence seems greater valuable, that would not inevitably point out that it somewhat is. the same applies to vice versa - only by using fact a guy or woman's existence seems worse and is void of a lot of cloth issues, would not advise that they don't seem to be content fabric. It somewhat relies upon on the guy ... no longer inevitably circumstances. to each his very own; and to each guy or woman's existence there is a few point of discomfort, in spite of how issues seem in visual charm. only undergo in concepts that. desire this helps you out. xoxo ?
2016-11-26 23:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's truly like you said, you can't do much about it. You won't change her attitude at this point. All you can do is be your best, but be humble about it. Unless she follows you again to wherever you work after you leave the university, you'll be rid of her soon enough.
2007-12-14 06:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing, it's not your problem. She has nothing to do with your life, why are you letting her affect it? You are letting HER PROBLEM become your own.
Just treat her like she got run over from a bus yesterday, you know, like ignore her completely.
2007-12-14 07:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋