Umm Hey...Im gay...Im 16...I live in alabama..My best friend knows...my other friends know..exept for like...3...theyre all girls...i have some friends that are guys...but..theres NO way im telling them....and one of my best friends thats really into the bible and stuff...found out today...so..shes like "you CAN CHANGE" "no i cant..i was born this way...and im staying this way" "u need to at least be BI".."ugh..ok..ill try..." (im not really going to try..because i have tried billions of times..and its never worked..im not BI!!.GRRR...well..anyways..i type too much T_T...getting to the question: SHOULD I COME OUT COMPLETELY AT SCHOOL???(my family is NEVER going to know..because they are stubborn people who can't accept stuff like this)
2007-12-14 06:18:08 · 5 answers · asked by yugioiguy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Don't rush anything.
I mean, come out when YOU feel most comforable and when you're ready and willing to deal with any consequences {if any}.
Don't let what someone else's opinion, whether they're your friend or not, make you feel obligated to come out.
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2007-12-14 06:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should come out as you are comfortable. Your family is never going to know, or they are never going to accept it? You are clear in your head about who you are. Some of your friends apparently are. Don't add to your stress load by taking on your well-intentioned but badly-informed friend's Bi advice. She is trying to "help" you be like you were before you talked about being gay. Her impression of you is in her head, and is her resonsibility.
Ask yourself if coming out will cement who you are in your own mind any better. I'm not sure that in high school it's important to define yourself sexually, at all. The jocks, the stoners, the computer geeks, etc... you kind of know who these people are by how they present themselves. Their personas will change and evolve as they do, as they grow up and mature. Everyone's does. Yours will as well.
Hetero girls may dress like sluts one day, then the next may be very conservative. They are going thru the same thing you are, in their own way. Hetero guys, the same deal. Growing up socially and sexually is all part of the adolescent train ride. Your travels are your own, as are everyone else's.
Coming out, making an announcement, probably isn't necessary. Just be you, and if that means being more open about your sexual identity, then fine. Just think of straight guys taking turns in the lunch room: "I'm straight." (Over and over). Or straight girls. You don't need to either, unless it does something for you, internally. It's nothing you owe anyone else.
Blessings on your path!
2007-12-14 14:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by purplesometimes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should "come out at school" per say. Rather, just be you. If people figure it out, good for them. Its not like you have to walk up to people and tell them. If people can't figure it out, at least they can't get mad and say you were hiding. lol.....I am 25 now. I didn't fully come out until I was 21. I let people figure it out for themselves and it worked out great for me. You need to be happy and thats all that matters.
2007-12-14 14:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by ReaLTaLk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no.
You are too young to even know if you are gay.
Why must gay people "come out"?
Just be yourself. Let people figure out for themselves what your orientation is.
2007-12-14 14:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by gary.aldras 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're frend that is a girl is horrible! she hates you.
Come out to all you care about.
2007-12-14 14:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋