we all hang out normaly exept this last time, he was alone. I guess they had been fighting and he showed @ my door. So we just hung out for a few hours, then she shows up poundingon my door, i let her in, and she's trippin. BIG TIME. I understand her side, but i don't want to stop talking to either one of them. We weren't doing anythin wrong. What should i do?
2007-12-14 05:32:32 · 31 answers · asked by Rickie R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Keep your distance for a while. Right now she won't be rational and she'll suspect you of being "the other woman" even though you didn't do anything. She needs time to cool off, and you don't want to be caught in the middle of whatever is currently wrong between them. If she calls or stops by and starts screaming at you, simply tell her you don't want to talk to her right now and she should come/call back when she's calmer, then hang up on her or shut the door in her face. DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES let him visit you, and if he calls you keep it short. Just explain to him that you don't want to make a bad situation worse, and remind him that he needs to make working out his issues with his wife his #1 priority, so he can call you back when he has patched things up. For now, stay away and stay out of it.
2007-12-14 05:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh oh....I experienced a similar situation like that, and this guy has a girlfriend and we IM all the time, and he talks crap about her and evidentally, he's IMing her and talking crap about me. She totally thinks he's in love with me or we're involved and it's not the case! I think you should have the husband and wife sit down with you and have the husband explain what happened with his wife. It's unfortunate, but it's usually not a good idea to be a single woman with married friends. Assumptions can be made, especially if they're fighting.
2007-12-14 05:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by PURR GIRL TORI 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this is not a win situation for you. You must remove yourself from this situation because, one or the other may hold you responsible for their marital problem/s. They surely do have a problem; 1. He knew where to go and 2. She knew where to find him.
They need time to sort out their problems.
You really shouldn't be speaking with him alone now. What's done is done and what they have communicated with each other is their business. In future, it will be a good idea to have a friend accompany you on your visits, if your visits continue.
Never ever a good idea to be a third party and if either one wants to speak with you alone then I recommend you don't as they should be speaking with each other and perhaps with a marriage counsellor.
2007-12-14 05:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by MYRA C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2015-02-04 16:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there is a fight between a couple, rationality usually goes out the window. He shouldn't have come to hang out with you when they were in a fight; he should have either gone elsewhere to let things cool off, or stuck around and resolved things. They need to keep you out of the middle of their fights, and that includes him knocking at your door without her. For now, try not to take sides with either of them, and keep your distance until things get settled down. When things get better, you may want to have a talk with each of them and let them know that you cherish the friendship you have with them as a "couple" and you don't want to have anything like this happen again, so leave you out.
2007-12-14 07:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by aheartofgold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are, whether you like it or not, in a sticky situation and leaving yourself open to all kinds of accusations. You need to set your boundaries. If it were me, and you wanted to stay friends with them, you need to set the rules straight, and the rules are that you will only hang out with them when they are together. Or maybe make the rule that you will go shopping, to the store, or whatever as long as you check with the other person first. That way, everyone knows what's going on and you can't be accused of anything if you lay it our first.
2007-12-14 05:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her and hope she believes you...were you friends with her or him more? There is always one you consider yourself closer too...if it's him well then you may have a problem that won't go away jealousy by her!
2007-12-14 05:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by b_furbee21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have put yourself into that position. If talking to them as a couple doesn't work, find new friends, and in the future, should one half of a couple show up at your door, be sick. God Bless.
2007-12-14 05:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yo should move on and find other friends and only see this couple in company.It is improper for a guy (married)to come inside a girls(single) place when she is alone.The wife is jealous and so would I be if that happened.Even though nothing is going on there is still a seed of doubt there.
2007-12-14 05:43:21 · answer #9 · answered by jean s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much you can do now. I'd just avoid them till things cool off.
2007-12-14 05:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by jamzm2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋