husbands, need your opinion on plastic surgery?

Question

i am slim and work out a lot but i still am not totally happy with my legs and it seems no matter how much i run, and use weights they just arent what i would like them to look like ideally. im also only a 34B chest size and wouldnt mind upgrading to a C. my husband goes ballistic any time i suggest some minor surgery that would make me feel so much better about myself. he insists that he would not be attracted to me if i was "fake" but i think thats bs since half the women i've found in his porn file on the computer look fake and he obviously likes them very much? what should i do? should i get the surgery anyway or respect his opinion. btw: i would not use his money for the surgery..only money i've saved from my own job.

Answer 1

My gf and I are going through this same thing. Here is the thing... I do not want her to go through a minor surgery, because there are risks, of something bad happening to her during or after the surgery. My friend's wife just "upgraded" thinking it was going to make her feel better about herself and he would stop looking at porn. Guess what, it didn't change a dang thing. The reason why is because she was unhappy about her appearance and didn't understand until after the surgery that it does not matter how you look... most women are never, never, never happy with their appearance. You need to change how you perceive yourself mentality not physically. I bet you are a gorgeous women and you need to respect his decision and not do it. As far as the stuff you find on his computer... we are guys. We are visual creatures and it gives us an outlet to fantasize.

Answer 2

I'm a mom of 7 kids and I do understand about your body not being proportioned. I am 5'0 at 156lbs, I don't look bad but I feel where my weight is just lingering. I personally would not get anything done, but first, if your breast are of a large size, then in the long run getting a reduction would benefit you. I have two friends that were big busted and got the procedure done and they do not regret it one bit. It makes them feel better physically. Tummy tuck I hear it works sometimes. My husband works in the O.R. and sees a lot of plastic surgery being done, he says the majority of the people who get a tummy tuck still look the same after a few weeks of the surgery. You do whats best for you, what ever will make you feel better about yourself and not do it for anybody but yourself.

Answer 3

plastic surgery gets very addicting. Chances are, after this operation(s) you will find something else about yourself you hate. Your nose is suddenly too big, your lips need to be fuller, etc. Going under the knife is dangerous, and unless its something that is really necessary you are literally RISKING YOUR LIFE. I work with surgeons, very top notch excellent ones, and I have been the in the OR mulitple times. Surgery's are not pretty and sometimes have bad outcomes. The wrong vein gets severed, the patient bleeds to death, the patient doesn't tolerate anesthesia, etc. So many things can go wrong. Don't be stupid or vain, if your husband is happy with you then get happy with yourself. I hate nothing on my body and I am far from perfect. Get a life and get out of the mirror.

Source: ICU nurse

Answer 4

I think you seriously need to re-evaluate your life, im not putting you down and im not a feminist or anything, infact im only 19 years old, but im old enough and have seen enough to know that plastic surgery, in some cases (veryvery few) can be helpful. however in your situation, its insane.
First of all you are fit and healthy, why would you pump unnatural chemicals into your body (basically poisoning your self). LOTs of women who get implants have serious health problems because of their implants leaking. It will up your chance of breast cancer dramatically! plus when your old do you want to look sixty five and have twenty year old breasts (even shallow men don't like that).
Plus what are you complaining about, sorry but most women are upset because thier husbands are not attracted to them anymore , or have more serious issues like abuse. Count your blessings!! and appreciate what mother nature gave you. don't you realize the money you spend on plastic surgery could save about 500 children from starving. open your eyes!!
plus most men look at porn, fantasizing is natural, and your husband probably knows that these women are not real.

Answer 5

There are other alternatives to liposuction.
Check around with the local plastic surgery offices and get all the information that you can.

Why get the implants if you're only going up a size?
Do you know how much time you'd lose from work for the recovery process?

Boobs are boobs. And women with large ones get harassed because of them.
And I seriously doubt your husband would stop watching porn if your boobs were bigger. (They are only interested in watching the penetration part anyway.)

Answer 6

Well on his porn, men associate that differently. it doesn't mean tht's what he truely desires his love to look like or what he expects women to look like. Those are FAKe, and that is what prn is, fake fantasy. He isn't married to them, he is married to you, so if he truely desired fake like them, he could have found one . I think you have become insecure somewhat because of his porn taste and pssibly this is why you may want this. I think if you work out etc.. and take care of yourself then whats the problem? Why do you need to try to look like a porn star to feel pritty. Why fall in the stereotype. It is those naturalities that make oyu you, and thats clearly the person he fell in love with. NEVER consider plastic surgery unless it is competely for you, and you completely can afford it, but it sounds like the problems it may cause in your marriage, may not be worrth it. Possibly you need to work on your self esteem, cause if you had full confidence and a higher self esteem , his porn and fantacies wouldn't be bothersome to you cause you would understand that most all guys look at that crap to a small degree, and he fantasizes just like you or anyone else does. Getting bigger boobies isn't going to make him put down the magazines

Answer 7

He's right and even if he is not, you may have lots of regrets! He may treat you differently. If he wanted a porn star he would have married one.

I believe only a certain type of person would get plastic surgery when it's not totally necessary - someone with psychological issues. I have noticed that EVERYONE I meet that has had it done has also displayed some sort of mental imbalance.

Answer 8

My Ex got implants before we split>worst thing I have ever felt>Would not date anyone with them>Scars>And there like tires on your car have to be changed after a while> the cost really goes up>Have you seem any of the mess ups1s 1 lower> nipple off center> And they don't have a warranty>I just heard about the doctor cut to deep and punchers her lung>She almost died And is still recovering>with no recourse> Be happy you have what you have there perfect size>He is smart not wanting them as you will be showing them off and issues will happen>>Just my thought been there done that>

Answer 9

If you think changing your appearance is going to have ANY effect on his attraction, do not delude yourself. He will always look at porn. Ask yourself why you want to change (and don't give the PC BS that it will make you feel better for yourself). If you were all alone in the world, would you go out of your way to make the same changes??? If you are doing it because you want to be attractive to anyone, that is prolly why your hubby is hesitant. He suspects you will get hit on etc and then leave.

Answer 10

Maybe you should work on your own self image and self esteem in more suitable and healthy ways rather than spending thousands of dollars getting pumped full of plastic to try and feel good about yourself. How good are you going to feel if you get the surgery and your husband doesn't look at you the same anymore. Why are you even asking this question on wether you should respect your husbands wishes?