she is not really my "friend" her brother are y firneds, but she likes to tag along. she is only 11 or 12yrs old! how can i help her get through this? she is very dramatic and emotional about this kind of stuff, and to top it off- she lives in a not to good area- i don't want to to start doing drugs or something she will regret!
2007-12-14 05:15:05 · 6 answers · asked by what i'd do 4 u 2 love me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi,
I admire and respect you for your concern for that young girl. May God be with you and take care of you always.
What you said is true, she could get into wrong habits because of this. But mostly wrong companies or bad habits happen when someone feels he or she does not have anyone else to turn to.
So, the best thing you can do for her is to give her love, affection and a confidence that you would be there for her and she could share with you any of her worries or fears or problems. She will have to feel that you are there for her. Initially she may dount you, she may be dramatic with you too, but, if you stay on, if she knows that you mean what you say, she will trust you and depend on you for the emotional comfort her young heart needs. Then she will never go bad or get into wrong hands.
She may also have the worry that her parents divorced because of some mistake of hers, young children tend to think that. She may also feel bad of her dad and mom. Tell her all this is possible in life, it so happens sometimes and nobody is at fault.
It is a tough task and a long one to play. If you are sure you could do it, please be there for her. She will love you ever for that.
God bless you. You are a wonderful person. Take care..
Merry Chrstmas and a Very Happy New Year!!!
2007-12-14 05:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by doer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make a point of talking to her when she tags along and listen if she wants to talk. If you notice she starts to change and looks like she is getting into drugs, etc. then don't hesitate to tell her it is not the answer and will change the fact her parents are getting a divorce. She still has both her parents who love her and that is what is important.
2007-12-14 13:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try and be as empathic, not sympathetic, with her as possible. Explain that she has nothing to do with her parents breaking up and it is their fault and not hers. Allow her to become emotional when she needs too but do not feed into her self pity. Also let her know that you are indeed a friend that she can rely on to talk about how she is feeling when and if she wants. Good luck.
2007-12-14 13:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her that is what men do, when women reach their expiration date, they are traded in for younger "hotter" models.
2007-12-14 13:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by Haley D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pray for her. Pray for her family. That God would do what HE needs to do within them all, that He would be glorified in that family's life together.
AMEN!
2007-12-14 13:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by DaughteroftheMostHighGOD 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
be the best friend you can be. listen to her, dont give advice, just listen. there are support groups if she needs them. good less both of you.
2007-12-14 13:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by Diceman 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋