What is your opinion of women who date married men?

Question

Or vice versa....

It doesn't bother me so much, however I think it's sort of pathetic...

Answer 1

in all honesty, i think americans take it too seriously. it is my understanding that europeans cheat just as much yet rarely divorce over it. it seems far more important to them that the men and women who are cheating are discreet, careful, and know when to come home.

feel free to correct me if i'm wrong.

Answer 2

Some women and people want what's not there's that why some women that date married men continue the trend. Some grew up without the father figure and had a good childhood, it really does matter. Some don't even realize what they're getting there selves into. These women are immoral, some do have low self esteem but some do it for the thrill, or just because. So for that they will reap what they sew.
What about the men who step out the relationship to be with other women? What do we think about them? It does take 2 to tango!

Answer 3

That's loaded. I don't judge anyone so the only thing that I can do is speak for myself. I wouldn't get involved with anyone that I knew was married because I feel like I deserve all of someone if that is what I am giving. I don't like the feeling of being secondary and I don't want to know that after we are done with what we have going on that this person is going home to his family while I would be heading home alone. I have had friends that get caught up in these situations because they are vulnerable, have low self esteem, and don't know what to look for in a relationship. And married men that cheat on their wives know how to manipulate girls like this because they are easy. Some women just want to have any man because they don't like to be alone. Some women get fed the im getting a divorce line so they fall for it and get sucked into that web and they aren't able to let go. Personally, I don't have patience or tolerance for any of that so as soon as someone tells me they are married, something automatically shuts off. Any interest I might have had, or anything we had at all goes automatically out of the door. My bed is going to be warm every night because the person Im with is going to be next to me, Im not sharing anyone im dating or involved with, with anyone else; bad marriage or good marriage, I don't care, Im still not getting mixed up in the drama.

Answer 4

It's very wrong but its not always about cowardice, low self-esteem or being self-destructive. I mean if youre 40 and doing dating a married man, it probably boils down to one of those three things but if youre 19 dating a married man its probably about being able to feel that youre in a relationship of sorts because there would still, obviously, be regular contact without having to be tied down in an actual relationship. I think way less of the married men who are out there dating than I do of the women. Hes the one whos married and owes his wife and family something not the woman hes seeing - chances are she doesnt even know his wife or kids if there are any. HE is the home wrecker not the woman on the side.

Answer 5

The main reason I object to women dating married men is because deception is unethical, and harms everyone involved eventually.

There are people who have "arrangements" with their spouses, I guess. As in: bang who you want, because you're not getting it here anymore, but I don't want to find out about it. I don't see the point of that kind of marriage AT ALL...but hey, I actually like my husband. Nor do I understand dating someone you only get part-time, and will never think highly enough of you to become your husband. But maybe that works for other women.

So if all parties are on board with the fact that that A is married to B and not going to leave her for C, then I guess it's OK...for them.

But it almost never works that way. It's usually about lying, deception and total disregard for the feelings of the third party. That's never on.

Answer 6

Not good, but not in the sense their horrible people, rather that their very selfish. People that cheat or are in a relationship w/ someone that is married are doing it b/c they have no self control and they have the attitude they get what they want when they want it and who cares about anyone else. And as for the folks that are saying dating a married man is good for feminism are out of their minds. A true feminist wants to be perceived as strong willed, independent and with dignity. You are jerks if you think other wise

Answer 7

Marriage is nothing more than a out dated RELIGIOUS policy. It is nothing more than an agreement between two people. Agreements are broken ALL the time,
Lies are told ALL the time...
Who Really Cares?

Often the married person is the person 'looking' for something that their marriage is not providing...why is it the fault of the dating them? They did not break any agreement

Answer 8

If they get the man to divorce his wife to marry them, what makes them think he will be faithful to them? In my opinion, these men are a waste of time. Go for someone who's single and available instead.

Answer 9

I'll just quote a line from Robert Cray's Consequences. It pretty much sums it up:

"To tell the truth
It is a big mistake
Homes will crumble and hearts will break
Baby, why gamble when there's so much to lose"

The consequences for all involved are just too much. Children, families etc...for what? A little cheatin?

Answer 10

Generally speaking, my opinion of this situation is unprintable.

Contrary to what the lamestream media would have us believe, there's really not a shortage of young and middle-aged single men in the Anglosphere. Apparently a portion of women would rather share a Winner(TM) than have a Loser(TM) all to themselves.

Answer 11

Of course it's wrong. But when a person asks a question, she needs help to understand why it's wrong. Ridiculing and embarrassing her may make others feel superior, but it won't help her or the situation.

Women who settle for married men often have deeper issues drawing them to unavailable men. It usually boils down to lack of self-esteem or issues with intimacy. Being a woman, I know how much it hurts to be betrayed by a man who is supposed to protect you, so I wouldn't be a part of it for that simple fact alone. However, let's not forget it is the husband who signed the contract of marriage that is obligated to his wife by default, not a stranger woman who doesn't know the wife.

I have the same opinion about men who are with married women. It is the wife who has an obligation to her husband in the first place, so she is the one who needs to be held responsible for letting it happen and being disloyal to her husband, not the stranger.