Help ! I feel unappreciated?

Question

help i feel so unappreciated! Im 24 and a im a pretty girl but my husband who i have been with for 8 years never suprises me or takes me away and we never go out for the day anywhere, he also never compliments me .. i feel so bored and depressed, i always tell him but he just says im giving him a headache and stop moanng at him ! Can anyone give me some advice thank you,

Answer 1

only you can make yourself happy; go shopping buy yourself a couple of new outfits, get your hair done and YOU make reservations for the two of you to go out to dinner.

Answer 2

you should always think about these things before you get married to quick,always do your best to find out if a guy is the sort of person that will make you happy and do things to make you feel happy and wanted. also talk to him about it,if he dont care then you made a mistake with him,cos if a guy loves you,he should treat u well even after 10yrs of marriage,why do ppl say its marriage.so what ppl should stop being boring and old and bring some romance back in to the relationship...also try suprising him and see what he does,if nothing works then alteast u tried,up to u what you do then,its your choice if you decide to leave him. no one here can make that decision for you. good luck.

Answer 3

It is unfortunate that your husband is not receptive to you, after you have told him how you feel. Keep communicating and do your best to show him what you are talking about by being an example. But also tell him that it hurts your feelings when he dismisses you as he has done. Be more emphatic that you are very serious about your feelings.
He needs to know that each and every time he blows your feelings off, that it only adds to your frustration.
Then, lastly, I would make a date with him. Make it special.
Think of something that you know he would love to do and do it. Then when the date is over and you are driving home,
tell him that now it is his turn to make a special date, thinking of you and what you would really love to do.
Marriage is all about compromise and doing something special every now and then to keep the flames burning and keep it interesting.
By showing him, you are helping him to know how to do the things that you would like and need from time to time.
The more you do it, the closer you will grow in your marriage.

Answer 4

stroke his ego. make him feel appreciated. subtle at first.

call him out of the blue, while he's working. tell him how grateful you are for him and all he does, how much you love him...make a list of 5 non-physical, and 5 physical things that you love about him, and share them with him. work up to a surprise dirty note in his lunch. then go to packing the kids off (if you have kids), and rent the man's favorite movie, make a nice dinner, and have a date night at home. talk about happy memories you guys share. (you don't have to do all of these, these are just ideas to help you)

don't expect an overnight change. it'll take time. the more effort you make, the better he'll feel about returning your show of affection.

the biggest part here, he's got stuff going on. he may be feeling just as unappreciated.

another thing, when you're feeling unappreciated, you may end up wearing your feelings. get a facial, get a pedi and mani, put some make up on, dress to kill. if you're looking your best, you feel better.

Answer 5

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. It is easy to sit and think about all of the things he doesn't do for you, but I have to say, you should have seen it coming unless you figured he would change after marriage. If so, you were mistaken. Peoples behaviors do not change very often in life. They pretty much stay who they are. I agree that if you continue to harp on him he will just think you are an angry woman. What I would suggest is for you to find things that you like to do and pursue them. Be good to yourself, treat yourself.

The most important love of your life is or should be you. It is easy to wallow in self pity, but you have choices to make in your life. If you find your husband is not as giving as you would like, then give to yourself. I have to think that he loves and cares about you since you have been together for so long, it is just that he may be more practical in his thinking and approach to life. He may think it redundant to keep showering you with affection since he does not require that kind of attention. You are different people with different requirements in life. This is something you two do not share, so you have to find a way to reward yourself.

I wish people would take the time to discover who they are and what makes them tick before they went out and found a mate, but all to often this does not occur.

Think hard about the little things that you would rather not live without and the things that you do not like. Discover who you are and then realize who he is. See the differences and accept them and you will be much happier.

If you keep filling your glass from the faucet of life and expect kool aid to come out you will drive yourself crazy. Find another source if it is kool aid you want, because no matter how many times you turn that faucet on only water will come out.

Yoda out

Answer 6

If you want a day out then why don't you plan one? Ask him to come along and if he doesn't want to then go by yourself. If he's anything like my husband he will come anyways just because he won't want you to go alone. In my house if I do something first then I get more response. So I compliment him and tell him how much appreciate him and he makes more of an effort to return the favor....

Answer 7

Spice it up. Book a getaway, leave him a note, go before him and tell him where you will be. Waiting on him to get there in a sexy little outfit. Take his attention by storm. It's honestly not going to help but for a little while, but hopefully by the time it wears off you have talked him into counseling or left him. There is nothing like a man seeing what all you do for him to appreciate you there

Answer 8

aww, i feel the same way you do, only it's been a 3 year relationship no marriage yet..

I occasionally get a "your pretty" but thats about it, I am feeling bored as well, the advice i've been given is just "thats the way it goes after being with someone for so long" but i have to let myself believe that there are relationships out there that are always exciting, or girls that at least still get small surprises..

Some say just settle with what you've got, others say you deserve better, it's hard to say, only you can decide for yourself. You could walk out on him and see if that sets off a red flag in his head so perhaps he'll try harder, but that could always backfire, he wouldn't care, and you'd be left alone and feeling terrible.. good luck

Answer 9

Welcome to Marriage and the basic emotional differences between men and women

Girl Men are not emotional people like we are doesn't mean they don't have them just means they don't show emotion the same way we do

You need to talk to him

Me i know i'd like to hear i love you more than i do but you know i know my guy loves me he may not say it but he shows
it

Instead of always focusing what 's not there try looking at what is there

Look at what he does do for you he supports you and him gives you a safe roof over you head you guys talk and all that stuff

Maybe you just need to talk to him tell him how you feel and why you feel the way that you do

But instead of dwelling on the negative look at the positive

Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship marriage or not

Answer 10

Do you do those things for him? Maybe instead of telling him how you want him to treat you, show him in kind. My experiences have shown this kind of treatment to do wonders. Also, after doing these kinds of things for him for a while, ask him how it makes him feel(be genuine, not sarcastic). If he responds positively(which he should), then tell him you would love to feel the same way. Most likely, you won't even HAVE to say anything, he will just start to do things for you in return.
On the flip side, if he responds negatively, I would be concerned that he is trying to pull himself out of your relationship and making attachements to something or someone else. Good luck, and I hope it works out for you.

Answer 11

All the bad things when it comes to marriage. OMG Listen if he doesn't want to hear you suggest or moan as he calls it than get dressed up and go out to see a movie or grab a bite to eat or go to get some drinks with friends. He will think you are up to no good but as long as he gets to doing things he has nothing to worry about. You should just try things alone