what are the most five popular causes of problem in relationships?

Question

I want to know what things are the most causes of problems in a relationships...sometimes we all know it but need some other ideas to remind us what is going on....take a look in your relationships and others, what do see the most..explain..if you know the solutions, you are welcome to share it with others here..tnx friends

dont make a list. explain each part and your opinions.

Answer 1

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1. Trust
When trust is broken it takes along time to regain it again. It is extremely painful to face the fact that someone you love has betrayed your trust
2. Respect
To treat others the way you would want to be treated. If someone is disrespectful which can be in many forms its like they have devalued you or your integrity.
3.Communication
This is one of the most serious problems in a relationship. Those that do not know how to communicate can not successfully explain their opinions without blaming or hurting the other sometimes not even realizing it. When communication breaks down it all becomes chaotic.
4.Compassion
Understanding and sympathy for your mate is a growing natural part but when someone lacks compassion and withholds these comforts that are needed it can be a very lonley place.
5. Affection
When we are denied affection we become instantly rejected and hurt. We all need to be loved cherished and the emotional things that are so important the sex cuddling kisses being denied these are again a terrible pain to ones self and we question Why am I being Punished.
All the other issues really fall somewhere in one of these categories. To have a healthy relationship you need to have all of these. Once one is jeopardized it will have a rebound affect and spiral downward. Everyone needs help in these areas at some point.

Answer 2

1. money, the lack of or even the abundance of can cause many arguments and just make one or both people intolerable.
2. lack of trust or infidelity, because honestly i can't be with someone that i can't trust or with someone who can't trust me. this also ties in to the lack of sex or the abbundance of sex because too much sex will make you want an emotional relationship with someone else and not enough will cause you too look for a sexual relationship. either way its infidelity.
3. addictions, can be hard on a relationship, i mean sure if you get through them then it may bring you closer together but if not then it can rip you to shreds.
4. lack of communications, if there is a lack of communication then chances are something is either going to miss interpreted or just come as a surprise.
5. lack of respect can also be a major contibuter because as long as there is not enough respect someone will feel the need to have the upper hand and take advantage which will cause the other person to eventually leave.

i have more tooo:

6. a lack of compromise or too much compromising on one persons part can break a relationship because then one person feels as though they giving up who and what they are and that is never good.
7. families (in-laws), can be in the sense that if there is someone who is influencing them in a negative way towards the relationship it can sway the person to see things in a different prospective.
8. fear, which causes doubt, because that means that someone in the relationship isn't ready for it all or someone feels as though the relationship is not being taken seriously.
9. Children, people fright about children all the time discipline is the main reason because one spouse has more of an assertive approach then the other.
10. religion and cultural differences, as far as one person may have some sort of norm and the other may just have the complete opposite

Answer 3

Belief of superiority in the relationship. As far as cheating, if someone cheats on you I think that you two were never meant to be together so it's not a problem but an end. Communication is difficult but since lack of communication is usually caused by another person being judgemental of what you say then being judgemental is the problem. Money is a problem for a couple that shouldn't be together. I have met couples where money brings them together b/c they end up spending time together trying to figure out how to make more money. Sex is big when one person is not sexually attracted to the other, but if it's like that I think it should end b/f it gets worse and trust me when I say it gets worse b/c there is nothing worse than someone hating you for not being able to evoke an emotion of attraction toward them. They might possibly try to destroy you.

Answer 4

1. Sex - too little or too much
2. Money - usually having to do with too little of how the partner spends it.
3. Children - people don't think through or talk over how they'll raise their kids before they have them - or even the when they have them. These are big things.
4. Religion - again, another huge thing that people just don't think will be a problem - this relates to the kids as well.

and now for the only one which applies personally,

5. Family - like them or not, they're always there and they're not always appropriate or minding their own business.

Answer 5

I'd say lack of communication. This I believe tends to be the biggest issue. Thoughts, feelings, emotions aren't being compared and shared between each other and that leaves the other person in the dark. If your mad at the other, tell them (not yell). How are they suppose to know what's wrong if you don't tell them?

Lack of trust. You need to be honest and open. If your not honest you can't have a relationship where you trust the other.

Not letting the past stay in the past. This is one big mistake that happens quite often. We all have done something wrong in the past, most people learn from their mistakes not repeat them. Just because he slept with one blonde with a big chest doesn't mean that every blonde with a big chest that walks past him he's thinking about jumping in the bed with her.

Critisizing. Who wants to stay around if your cutting them down all the time?

Double Standards. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Don't expect for you to be able to go out partying with your friends all the time and he or she sits at home. Don't be mad whenever the other goes out as well.

Jelousey. Enough said.

Answer 6

Well some of the more basic problems begin in the questioning of roles whom does what and contributes what into the relationship. Than of course there's the inability to compromise on personal beliefs. It doesn't matter how linguistic you are, if you aren't able to compromise than that causes hurt feelings and vindictive behaviors. Basic stresses of course are Money, discipline, respect, children, and where to spend the holidays.

Answer 7

communication - or lack of -- i'm sure it has happend to the best of the best! personal example my partner never tells me when he has a work from home day - so we could arrguee because if i would of known i would of communicated to him what i would of like him to of done around the house!

that's minor but it's all i could think of!

Trust - IF you can't trust your other half then how can you let them do anything as an individual Sorry no personal story was taught this in Sexual Psycology!

along with trust is cheating - some people put them self in the sistuations where one would/could cheat! and that tells me they haven't found what they wanted or they woudn't be in that sistuiation therefore causeing problems of not being true to yourself! or to your partner!

lake of passion - i see it all to well you start off sitting next to each other on the chair/couch or what not or when you go out your next to each other hugging and kissing and you here go get a room all the time from friends and other random peeps. some how that fades if you let it and you sit on the other love seat instead of sitting next to your partner you hang out with the girls or the guys a little distance is okay but don't forget the passion! mroe over when your alone spend two minutes to sit next toeach other!

Answer 8

Money
Children
Routine
Infidelity
Lack of Communication

Answer 9

Popular? There isn't ANY that's popular...but if you mean the most common causes,
Money
Dishonesty
Selfishness
Disrespect
Low self esteem

Jesus Christ is the answer to all problems.

Answer 10

there's only one- lack of communication. seriously. people get so close they think the person is thinking the same as them. but they're not because they're two different people. so many arguments would be avoided if a person said "that's my cola in the fridge, don't drink it" instead of after the fact "i can't believe you drank my cola i would have never done that to you in my family people didn't drink other people's cola," etc. and that works on a larger scale. people should honest about them selves, and say what they mean. and if they say something different, then they have to stand by it. even money problems can be alleviated if you just sit down with a list and make agreement and when you're stressed just come in and say i'm stressed dammit because we're poor! then get over it after the outburst.