Why do people assume that...?

Question

...if you have a low sex drive, or if you don't really think about or care for the activity that there's something wrong with you?

I never did think about it much, ever.
Haven't had it in over two years.
Never liked it much.
Had it maybe 10 times in my 25 years.

But seriously...why do people think this means somethings *wrong* with you?

Do you have any idea how nice it is not to have to be burdened with being preoccupied about this sort of thing - such as are many of my testosterone-oozing sex-hungry male peers?

Answer 1

Well, you're 25 and at that age it is usually for people to have a huge sex drive. By doing this to us nature is tell us that this is the best time to procreate. I think that you should see a doctor and discuss it with him. It may be a sign of another potentially more serious problem. After being checked out by a heart specialist and urologist and of course your GP and nothing is wrong then I wouldn't worry about it. What about the nonsexual part of a relationship. Don't you have emotional needs? It sounds to me and I'm no expert that your testosterone levels are probably low. I think that you should get into an excersize program. You really should enjoy sex when you have it even if you don't crave it all the time.

Answer 2

I have had sex once in 12 years, but I would like to have a partner (though I wouldn't want sex really frequently), and I suppose it is considered odd because most people do want that intimacy (or just the sensation). I had a friend like you, he said that he really hated the feeling of being out of control. I felt that that was indicative of a problem, but he didn't see it that way.

Answer 3

a low libido can be normal. But more often than not it's a sign of some trauma or illness. And as such people naturally play the odds. So they may be wrong in your case (I don't know you so I don't have an opinion) ... but they would normally be right.

Answer 4

everyone is different. personally, it's nice when it happens but i don't miss it when it's not there. i could live just as easily without it. but some people have higher sex drives, and it's on their mind more. i think that a lot of people will say you're weird because it's more "the norm" for men to be thinking about it all the time.

Answer 5

well its simple, most people, men mostly, act the complete opposite. so naturally, if you fall into a category that's very far from the norm people will think you have something wrong with you.
if you had bright red skin people would think something was wrong with you because its unusual and most people dont have red skin, but really it could just be a very pinky fleshy colour with no health issues.
people just think that the further you are from "normal" that there has to be something wrong with you. its silly really since most people have something that's abnormal about them.

Answer 6

lol its bigger if we simply take delivery of the truth that we're all hypocrites, considering the fact that appear at what you simply stated your assuming that the ones men and women anticipate that men and women are assuming its a by no means finishing cycle.

Answer 7

You just haven't met someone who 'knocked your socks off' yet. That'll get you jump-started. (I didn't discover my 'true' libido until after divorcing my first husband.)

If not, then just accept the fact that you've got a low sex-drive and find someone similar.

Answer 8

shrug im just like you.

i just think most people need attention these days for various reasons, and its all they crave. it may not be the activity but just to be close to someone.. they love they already have is never enough.

Answer 9

its unmanly and abnormal. be a gentleman but have a moderate to healthy sex drive even if not having sex.

Answer 10

its just looked at as weird becase most people arent like that thats all ur just u n thats all that u can be