My husband has never been the emotional type. However, lately, I have been going through a rough period in my life and when I talk to him about it I get absolutely no comfort. He just gets angry at me at says I am overemotional. What can I do to get him to try and sympathize with me and just lend me a shoulder to cry on?
2007-12-14 04:15:00 · 17 answers · asked by Beana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband probably doesn't feel capable of handling emotional issues. He may find expressing or responding to emotions creepy or he may think it unmanly. Its something he has been taught.
Perhaps some man he respects who you know has the capacity to be sensitive could help him understand what you need.
2007-12-14 08:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by birdman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, like so many, you married before either of you was ready: he is immature and insecure. If this marriage is to work, he has to put the needs of his family before his own comfort, although I doubt that he has the maturity. The answer from the nanny with four children is best: move out of the bedroom so you can both get more sleep. Have you parents or grandparents who can give you the moral ans emotional support you need? Has he parents you can turn to and ask for help? I suggest you both read Dr Phil McGraw's excellent book, Relationship Rescue. (I wish I got commission, as I recommend it to so many people!). You probably got together with someone before getting to know them and had some romantic idea that you could live forever in a state of emotional ecstasy. You are by no means alone!! People fall madly in love, but the high emotion, intense passions and desires are hard to keep up for more than around two or three years, so if you want your relationship to last, do make sure you have similar values, ambitions, interests, etc., etc., and really are temperamentally suited. We are on our best behaviour when in love, but when we start to come down, we can either develop it into a deep and lasting love and friendship, or if the common values, etc. are not there, allow it to slide into misery. Good Luck!
2016-04-09 02:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My neighbor and I were just talking about this the other day and we both agreed with one another, you don't talk to a man and expect him to sympathize or listen if you want that then you talk to a woman. So guys are incapable of that kind of support, it doesn't make them bad but it's silly to go to him or expect him to be emotional and supportive if you know he's not. Just find a friend or call your mom or call your sister. One person can't be everything for you, I'm sure he's a great guy, I know my husband is but something just need to be discussed with another woman.
2007-12-14 04:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe after the 100 time of hearing it he has had enough> And the answer he gives you argue about> Don't be to upset we guys lost emotion for logic long ago>Then again I could be wrong and he just doesn't care>Some guys think it's wimpy to be emotional> Either he has it or don't>Best of luck with your rough time>Guys listen up this is why girls cheat the smart guys listen and enjoy the well COME they get<>
2007-12-14 04:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I feel for you! Well that's a tough one, since obviously it's not his personality type. I kind of understand your husband in a way. I grew up where if you're sick, you dont whine, complain and cry about it, you just suck it up and move on! It's not the end of the world. My husband grew up, where if you caught a small little cold, his mom would sleep right next to him all night (I'm exaggerating but you get the idea!). So when ever he would get sick and complain, I would have no sympathy! I would be like, come on suck it up! I know it sounds bad, but I just grew up like that in my family. So I feel like, if I can take it and I'm a girl- YOU have to suck it up 'cause you're a man! It may not be the right thinking, but it's how I feel. Maybe he kind of grew up like that.
Your only choice is to sit down and openly talk to him, tell him how you feel and how much you need him to just listen sometimes.
2007-12-14 04:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Micah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always try to flip the table on him. Next time he is trying to talk to you about something, walk away, tell him to suck it up. Get over it, stop being a mama's boy. Don't do all the sweet little things you do for him, tell him to wash his own clothes, cook his own dinner. Then go see a couselor. You still need someone to talk to after all. Good luck.
2007-12-14 04:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by cyn s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, you need a girlfriend to talk to. I talk to my husband all the time, but when I need a shoulder, its to my girlfriends house go, we have been friends for a long time and understand and listen to each other without judgment. Good Luck.
2007-12-14 04:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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